i just cant maintain sleep i will always wake up in the middle of my sleep.. huhuhuh.. pls helP!!
Answer:
Here are a couple of tips that will help you improve on your sleeping problem. First and foremost do not eat or drink an hour or two before you go to sleep. Freshen up your room (by opening the window and stuff) prior to going to sleep it. Switch off any electronic devices in your room. Do not engage in energetic physical activities when you're about to sleep. Keep your bed sheets suitable to the weather (avoid using cotton made sheets during the summer season). Make sure you go to the toilet one last time before going to bed because there is nothing more annoying than having to get up in the middle of a great dream to have a piss. And last but definetly not least, put all your worries aside because sleeping time is actually the only time that our brain gets a rest which will enable it to work more properly and efficiently afterwards. Write down what you need to be doing the next day on a piece of paper just as a way of reassuring yourself that it will be taken care of.
Im trying to deal with this myself.Im currently taking valerian Jury is still out.
people who often can't fall asleep or have trouble staying asleep suffer from insomnia. You can try drinking some hot herbal tea before bedtime. If you want more tips and remedies visit http://www.realhomeremedies.com... and click on the insomnia link on the left.
How long are you sleep? if more than 5/6 hours per day off course you have a problem...you should reduce your time for sleep, for an adult normally less than 6 hours.
Difficulty sleeping can be caused by depression, anxiety, bi-polar disorder %26 other mental problems. Depression usually causes someone to awaken after 3 to 4 hrs of sleep %26 to have difficulty going back to sleep. If following the advice of others answering your question doesn't work, consider an appt with a psychiatrist who can give you proper medication. I'm bi-polar %26 wouldn't be able to sleep w /o Trazodone which is not an addictive drug.
take bendryl it really helps.
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Can't let myself be happy?
I can't let myself be in an enviroment that's condusive to my well-being. I can't even stay in one place too long or I get antsy. What should I do?
Answer:
It's difficult, like a really bad habit that you can't break.
In the end it comes down to how bad you want it, and how much it will help you reach your goal. Wanderlust is ok when you're young, as long as you're always seeking out good people to spend your time with, and improving and enlightening yourself.
If your choices make you miserable... start making better choices! If you can't make the big ones, then start small, but do not let up.
Pop a prozac :-)
You have described the life of a soldier.
Be wise in your choice of what battles to avoid.
This is going to sound corny... But I like to make lists. Making lists of pros and cons to every situation always helps me see the black and white of things. It makes me realize if a decision I'm about to make is wrong and detrimental to my life. Try making a list of what it would take for you to be happy... and make a plan to work toward it. That may not help you, but it *may* get you on a better track. I hope you start to feel better and I hope it helps you as it has helped me in the past.
Answer:
It's difficult, like a really bad habit that you can't break.
In the end it comes down to how bad you want it, and how much it will help you reach your goal. Wanderlust is ok when you're young, as long as you're always seeking out good people to spend your time with, and improving and enlightening yourself.
If your choices make you miserable... start making better choices! If you can't make the big ones, then start small, but do not let up.
Pop a prozac :-)
You have described the life of a soldier.
Be wise in your choice of what battles to avoid.
This is going to sound corny... But I like to make lists. Making lists of pros and cons to every situation always helps me see the black and white of things. It makes me realize if a decision I'm about to make is wrong and detrimental to my life. Try making a list of what it would take for you to be happy... and make a plan to work toward it. That may not help you, but it *may* get you on a better track. I hope you start to feel better and I hope it helps you as it has helped me in the past.
Can't get past son's suicide.?
My first born committed suicide at the age of 27. That was over 10 years ago. To this day I cry almost daily. I can't talk about it without crying. I can't visit his gravesite - it's devistating. I've lost my family, my home, my business and I guess my mind as well. Theraphy and meds are useless. I don't blame myself - but I can think of a million things I could have done differently as a mother. I should have at least seen that he had a problem. My other son is 32 and has had 3 strokes in the past year. The doctors are on top of it, but I can't get over the fear that he may die. If he does they may as well bury me with him. Please help if you can.
Answer:
It is never easy to get over Death, and it's much harder when it's the death of someone u love, a son, daughter, partner.
And i guess it is Hell when u have to face the fact that yr loved one committed suicide, an act of desperation. U say u don't blame yrself, but i doubt that, u can't forget and it is devastating to u coz somehow, u feel u could have prevented it. But that is soooo untrue.
I am sorry to say that but people who commit suicide, most of the time are not well enough to have a clear judgment, coz if they did they wouldn't hurt the ones they love and leave them voluntarily. U have to understand that completely so u can stop blaming yrself coz by that alone u can be assured that nothing u would have said or done could have changed his decision.
Now as a mother yr priority have to change and u have to think of the living, i am sorry to say that, but u should only focus now on yr son, live and cherish every moment with him, have a life and build memories, instead of dwelling on the past and what could have or would have.
I am urging u to stop grieving over yr dead son and start living with yr very much alive one, he's the one that matters now.
Many churches offer grief counseling, they have classes for people who have lost children, parents, everything. You meet with other people in the same position as you, and you learn that you are not alone in your grief. Try this.
Well i would suggest that you keep thinking positive becuase if you keep thinking negative you are only upsetting yourself. Dont be afraid to talk with your doctor or proest about your problems . Hope all goes well for you . Good luck
Think positive
What you've got to do is just say everything happens for a reason. God has done this for a reason you may never see it but there is a reason. You need to go to a therapist and listen to what she or he says. You need to stick close to your other son. Try to get your life back and live it. Some days you may need to let a cry out go ahead! Think of the good times and not the suicide
Good Luck
Live! Live for your son's memory. Live for all that is good in the world. Make a stand for something or your fall for everything. Enjoy the life your living son has. Seek counsel in a church or through a hospital support group. Read daily affirmations that are positive. God Bless you. I will pray for you.
I can't say that I can totaly understand your situtation. But I do know where you are comming from. About three years ago I lost my mother, I was 19 years old. It was just my sister and myself left to our family. I didn't think I could live, or I didn't want to without her, I just wanted to be burried next to her. Then my sister told me something that probably saved my life. She told me you can't do this to me, if you leave me I will have nobody else. I know it's hard to move on and live life, but you have to if not for yourself for the others that love you. You can't be that selfish. Would your son want you to behave this way? He'd probably be very upset if he knew you held his death over your head. Just something to think about. May God bless you!
First, you'll never "get past" your son's suicide. You can hope to reorder your life so that it is better than it is now. It's interesting that you say you don't blame yourself and then "think of a million things I could have done differently."
It seems like you are being very hard on yourself. All of us do the best we can with what we have in any given situation. Losing a child, especially to suicide, is the toughest thing anyone can face. It must be hard to keep moving on every day. It's easy now to say you should have seen he had a problem. The issue is, when we're that close to a situation, we can't see things like that. You did what you could.
If you continue to beat yourself up, you may go on living like you are. If you can forgive yourself just a little, or believe in the potential of something better, you may just be able to start taking small steps toward the life you want. I'm available by email if you'd like
First of all I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know the greif must be devastating.
It sounds like you have tried therapy and meds but have you gone in with the mindset that you are ready to move past the greif?
I am a therapist and so many times when I am working with someone who has had a suicide in the family they feel as though if they "get over it" they are doing a betraying their loved one.
In greif I often tell people your never going to forget or "get over" the death but you can learn to cope and continue living. However this is only possible if YOU are ready and make a decision to do so.
If you feel your ready I would go to a therapist who specializes in greif, I would also seek psychiatry who will really listen to your needs and prescribe meds accordingly. Also, I believe a support group is imparriative. You need a group of peers, who can understand first hand. There are usually multiple suviror of suicide groups. If there is not, start one and hold in in your sons memory.
As for your guilt, it would be abnormal if you did not feel guilty. However, people who choose to take their lives often do so unprovoked. It was ultimately his decision, there is nothing in this world that could have stopped him, nothing you could have said more or less ect. It is NOT your fault.
Please seek support, best of luck to you.
I agree that you will never really get over it. There is no worse thing than the loss of a child. I would suggest you do some research on the 5 stages of grief. It may be that you haven't moved properly through the stages. Good luck and good luck to your son too!
Hello,
Have you ever heard of Bert Hellinger work?
http://www.hellinger.com/international/e...
If you have any chance to go his "workshop" it will be more than of use.
Sometimes a suicide is committed because of a wish to follow somebody they have loved to the other side.
And there is nothing and nobody who can prevent that - be aware of the situation that is happening to you with your other son! He needs Mom (love) - not fear.This is possible to be resolved! Hope that this will be of use.Stay brave - S.
I would agree with others that talking to people who have been in the same situation as you may help. Especially those who have come through the otherside. I know when one of my relatives died I was very sad - seeing someone else who had been in the same situation who could laugh and joke and still be able to speak fondly of the one they loved gave me hope and strength that I could do the same.
I tend to see my relatives death as a link to the otherside, they will be there for me when I die.
I know you feel scared for your other son, but you have brought them up the best you can - and thats all you can ever do, that's all any of us can ever do. Be with your son, spend time with him, talk with him and most of all laugh with him.
I'm not sure it would help, but you could go to a spiritualist church or medium you trust. I'm sure your first born would not have wanted you to feel so much sadness over him for so long, try to talk to someone about him, about who he was and what you loved about him.
I hope my words help in some way, my thoughts are with you
My heart is with you, that is very devasting. There is never a timeline where you can get over something like that. Everyone grieves in their own for however long they want. Loosing someone that close to you is very hard, you should just take it one day at a time, and if you want to cry then cry. You should still try to live for today though, wouldnt your son want that?
Answer:
It is never easy to get over Death, and it's much harder when it's the death of someone u love, a son, daughter, partner.
And i guess it is Hell when u have to face the fact that yr loved one committed suicide, an act of desperation. U say u don't blame yrself, but i doubt that, u can't forget and it is devastating to u coz somehow, u feel u could have prevented it. But that is soooo untrue.
I am sorry to say that but people who commit suicide, most of the time are not well enough to have a clear judgment, coz if they did they wouldn't hurt the ones they love and leave them voluntarily. U have to understand that completely so u can stop blaming yrself coz by that alone u can be assured that nothing u would have said or done could have changed his decision.
Now as a mother yr priority have to change and u have to think of the living, i am sorry to say that, but u should only focus now on yr son, live and cherish every moment with him, have a life and build memories, instead of dwelling on the past and what could have or would have.
I am urging u to stop grieving over yr dead son and start living with yr very much alive one, he's the one that matters now.
Many churches offer grief counseling, they have classes for people who have lost children, parents, everything. You meet with other people in the same position as you, and you learn that you are not alone in your grief. Try this.
Well i would suggest that you keep thinking positive becuase if you keep thinking negative you are only upsetting yourself. Dont be afraid to talk with your doctor or proest about your problems . Hope all goes well for you . Good luck
Think positive
What you've got to do is just say everything happens for a reason. God has done this for a reason you may never see it but there is a reason. You need to go to a therapist and listen to what she or he says. You need to stick close to your other son. Try to get your life back and live it. Some days you may need to let a cry out go ahead! Think of the good times and not the suicide
Good Luck
Live! Live for your son's memory. Live for all that is good in the world. Make a stand for something or your fall for everything. Enjoy the life your living son has. Seek counsel in a church or through a hospital support group. Read daily affirmations that are positive. God Bless you. I will pray for you.
I can't say that I can totaly understand your situtation. But I do know where you are comming from. About three years ago I lost my mother, I was 19 years old. It was just my sister and myself left to our family. I didn't think I could live, or I didn't want to without her, I just wanted to be burried next to her. Then my sister told me something that probably saved my life. She told me you can't do this to me, if you leave me I will have nobody else. I know it's hard to move on and live life, but you have to if not for yourself for the others that love you. You can't be that selfish. Would your son want you to behave this way? He'd probably be very upset if he knew you held his death over your head. Just something to think about. May God bless you!
First, you'll never "get past" your son's suicide. You can hope to reorder your life so that it is better than it is now. It's interesting that you say you don't blame yourself and then "think of a million things I could have done differently."
It seems like you are being very hard on yourself. All of us do the best we can with what we have in any given situation. Losing a child, especially to suicide, is the toughest thing anyone can face. It must be hard to keep moving on every day. It's easy now to say you should have seen he had a problem. The issue is, when we're that close to a situation, we can't see things like that. You did what you could.
If you continue to beat yourself up, you may go on living like you are. If you can forgive yourself just a little, or believe in the potential of something better, you may just be able to start taking small steps toward the life you want. I'm available by email if you'd like
First of all I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I know the greif must be devastating.
It sounds like you have tried therapy and meds but have you gone in with the mindset that you are ready to move past the greif?
I am a therapist and so many times when I am working with someone who has had a suicide in the family they feel as though if they "get over it" they are doing a betraying their loved one.
In greif I often tell people your never going to forget or "get over" the death but you can learn to cope and continue living. However this is only possible if YOU are ready and make a decision to do so.
If you feel your ready I would go to a therapist who specializes in greif, I would also seek psychiatry who will really listen to your needs and prescribe meds accordingly. Also, I believe a support group is imparriative. You need a group of peers, who can understand first hand. There are usually multiple suviror of suicide groups. If there is not, start one and hold in in your sons memory.
As for your guilt, it would be abnormal if you did not feel guilty. However, people who choose to take their lives often do so unprovoked. It was ultimately his decision, there is nothing in this world that could have stopped him, nothing you could have said more or less ect. It is NOT your fault.
Please seek support, best of luck to you.
I agree that you will never really get over it. There is no worse thing than the loss of a child. I would suggest you do some research on the 5 stages of grief. It may be that you haven't moved properly through the stages. Good luck and good luck to your son too!
Hello,
Have you ever heard of Bert Hellinger work?
http://www.hellinger.com/international/e...
If you have any chance to go his "workshop" it will be more than of use.
Sometimes a suicide is committed because of a wish to follow somebody they have loved to the other side.
And there is nothing and nobody who can prevent that - be aware of the situation that is happening to you with your other son! He needs Mom (love) - not fear.This is possible to be resolved! Hope that this will be of use.Stay brave - S.
I would agree with others that talking to people who have been in the same situation as you may help. Especially those who have come through the otherside. I know when one of my relatives died I was very sad - seeing someone else who had been in the same situation who could laugh and joke and still be able to speak fondly of the one they loved gave me hope and strength that I could do the same.
I tend to see my relatives death as a link to the otherside, they will be there for me when I die.
I know you feel scared for your other son, but you have brought them up the best you can - and thats all you can ever do, that's all any of us can ever do. Be with your son, spend time with him, talk with him and most of all laugh with him.
I'm not sure it would help, but you could go to a spiritualist church or medium you trust. I'm sure your first born would not have wanted you to feel so much sadness over him for so long, try to talk to someone about him, about who he was and what you loved about him.
I hope my words help in some way, my thoughts are with you
My heart is with you, that is very devasting. There is never a timeline where you can get over something like that. Everyone grieves in their own for however long they want. Loosing someone that close to you is very hard, you should just take it one day at a time, and if you want to cry then cry. You should still try to live for today though, wouldnt your son want that?
Can't get any sleep at all??
Last night I had a tremendous hard time trying to get to sleep.
Whenever my dad works his graveyard shift, I sleep in my mom's room on the floor. Sometimes I sleep on the bed but I surprisingly think both are at the same level of comfort to sleep on.
I don't know why I do this, I guess it's because my bed is uncomfortable and I can be afraid of the dark at times (and yes I'm not 3 yrs old anymore). I enjoy having sleep overs with my friends but I hate it comes to sleeping time because I can never sleep and I hear things (I only hear things, I don't see things though). My friend told me that one time a long time ago she used to see a blond girl wearing a white dress with a rose on the bottom of her dress and their cats would always meow when she was around. When I was sleeping over at my friends house, they were asleep and I heard their cats meowing. I was so scared I woke her up. The next time I heard the cats meowing and someone taking deep breaths. What can I do about this??
Answer:
i strongly suggest valerian root. it's great at releving stress and tension! you can get it over the counter and it's a great sleep aid! if you have one of those "racing minds" or "i can't turn my head off no matter how tired i am" then this will deffinately help. you can find at your local grocery store in the pharmacy or herbal remedy section. start off taking 500-1000mgs, 30-45 minutes before you go to bed. now you can get this stuff in capsle form and it's 100% safe (my whole family has been taking it for years and our family doctor actually recomended it) however the only downside is that the more potent the brand your taking the stronger the smell. and this stuff smells AWFUL! but it's worth it. within 5-7 days you should notice a definate change in your sleep.
WARNING! i strongly do not suggest that you take tylonal PM and boose, in any form or combination. the main ingredient in tylonal PM and advil pm, or benadryl for that matter is diphenhydramine. here's what happens when you take it:
You can walk into a drugstore and choose from an array of sleep aids, offered without prescription. The main ingredient of over-the-counter sleeping pills is an antihistamine. Antihistamines are generally taken for allergies, but also make you feel very sleepy. Common over-the-counter sleep medications are Sleep-Eze, Sominex, Nytol, and Unison; they contain antihistamines such as:
diphenhydramine hydrochloride,
diphenhydramine citrate, or
doxylamine succinate.
In general, over-the-counter sleep medications are not a good choice because they:
Are not intended for long-term use.
Interfere with mental alertness during the day, so you should avoid driving and other similar tasks. You may also be at risk for falling asleep
Reduce the quality of your sleep by reducing time you spend in deep sleep.
Use over-the-counter sleep medications only for transient or short-term insomnia and in conjunction with changes to your sleeping habits. Be sure to pay attention to your body鈥檚 physical response to these sleep medications.
take niter quill
Sleeplessness has so many personal causes that it's hard to find something that works for everyone, outside of drugs. I can still make a few suggestions, and they should help at least a little.
1. Cut back or eliminate caffeine from your diet.
2. Try to get to sleep for 30 minutes at the most. Then get up for at least 15 minutes before trying again.
3. A glass of milk before bed really does help. It does not have to be warm.
4. Use a noise generator of some sort. People use electric fans or quiet radios. They do sell soothing sound players. Best is if you are lucky enough to live on the ocean and listen to the waves.
5. Learn the principles of auto-suggestion and hypnosis. That's basically what you are doing now, and what is keeping you awake. It's possible, sometimes, to harness it to put yourself to sleep. It is not trivial though. Basically, teach yourself relaxation and meditation techniques.
Anxiety can cause sleeplessness. I had terrible anxiety which caused me to lay in bed at night and my mind would run wild. I too became afraid of the noises I would hear and your mind may read too much into it. You may even hear things that aren't really happening, your mind fills in the blanks. I would try exercising or reading before you go to bed. Exercise will makew you feel tired at night and the reading usually makes you very sleepy. If you are really having trouble thereafter, I would talk to your parents. There are prescriptions sleeping aids that you may be able to take. There are also over the counter ones.
Whenever my dad works his graveyard shift, I sleep in my mom's room on the floor. Sometimes I sleep on the bed but I surprisingly think both are at the same level of comfort to sleep on.
I don't know why I do this, I guess it's because my bed is uncomfortable and I can be afraid of the dark at times (and yes I'm not 3 yrs old anymore). I enjoy having sleep overs with my friends but I hate it comes to sleeping time because I can never sleep and I hear things (I only hear things, I don't see things though). My friend told me that one time a long time ago she used to see a blond girl wearing a white dress with a rose on the bottom of her dress and their cats would always meow when she was around. When I was sleeping over at my friends house, they were asleep and I heard their cats meowing. I was so scared I woke her up. The next time I heard the cats meowing and someone taking deep breaths. What can I do about this??
Answer:
i strongly suggest valerian root. it's great at releving stress and tension! you can get it over the counter and it's a great sleep aid! if you have one of those "racing minds" or "i can't turn my head off no matter how tired i am" then this will deffinately help. you can find at your local grocery store in the pharmacy or herbal remedy section. start off taking 500-1000mgs, 30-45 minutes before you go to bed. now you can get this stuff in capsle form and it's 100% safe (my whole family has been taking it for years and our family doctor actually recomended it) however the only downside is that the more potent the brand your taking the stronger the smell. and this stuff smells AWFUL! but it's worth it. within 5-7 days you should notice a definate change in your sleep.
WARNING! i strongly do not suggest that you take tylonal PM and boose, in any form or combination. the main ingredient in tylonal PM and advil pm, or benadryl for that matter is diphenhydramine. here's what happens when you take it:
You can walk into a drugstore and choose from an array of sleep aids, offered without prescription. The main ingredient of over-the-counter sleeping pills is an antihistamine. Antihistamines are generally taken for allergies, but also make you feel very sleepy. Common over-the-counter sleep medications are Sleep-Eze, Sominex, Nytol, and Unison; they contain antihistamines such as:
diphenhydramine hydrochloride,
diphenhydramine citrate, or
doxylamine succinate.
In general, over-the-counter sleep medications are not a good choice because they:
Are not intended for long-term use.
Interfere with mental alertness during the day, so you should avoid driving and other similar tasks. You may also be at risk for falling asleep
Reduce the quality of your sleep by reducing time you spend in deep sleep.
Use over-the-counter sleep medications only for transient or short-term insomnia and in conjunction with changes to your sleeping habits. Be sure to pay attention to your body鈥檚 physical response to these sleep medications.
take niter quill
Sleeplessness has so many personal causes that it's hard to find something that works for everyone, outside of drugs. I can still make a few suggestions, and they should help at least a little.
1. Cut back or eliminate caffeine from your diet.
2. Try to get to sleep for 30 minutes at the most. Then get up for at least 15 minutes before trying again.
3. A glass of milk before bed really does help. It does not have to be warm.
4. Use a noise generator of some sort. People use electric fans or quiet radios. They do sell soothing sound players. Best is if you are lucky enough to live on the ocean and listen to the waves.
5. Learn the principles of auto-suggestion and hypnosis. That's basically what you are doing now, and what is keeping you awake. It's possible, sometimes, to harness it to put yourself to sleep. It is not trivial though. Basically, teach yourself relaxation and meditation techniques.
Anxiety can cause sleeplessness. I had terrible anxiety which caused me to lay in bed at night and my mind would run wild. I too became afraid of the noises I would hear and your mind may read too much into it. You may even hear things that aren't really happening, your mind fills in the blanks. I would try exercising or reading before you go to bed. Exercise will makew you feel tired at night and the reading usually makes you very sleepy. If you are really having trouble thereafter, I would talk to your parents. There are prescriptions sleeping aids that you may be able to take. There are also over the counter ones.
Canker sores and life being thrown of track?
Hi.
I know this is a strange question for the mental health section:
The smallest things seem to throw my life off track and prevent me from doing things. It's like I'm like a thin pole balancing on the ground and it only takes a fly to send me crashing down.
Why are some people able to survive/ignore pitfalls in their lives better than others? A dumb example: Right now I have a mouth sore which causes continuos discomfort/pain. But because of this I put my whole life on hold: I don't study. I don't work. Basically I wait for it all to go away. It's like I have to be completely comfortable to be able to do anything.
Why are some people able to survive/ignore small pitfalls in their lives better than others?
Answer:
Well, I was like you to some extent. I think you need to hook up with someone tough, who doesn't let things bother them, and who is optimistic. When you run into real roadblocks down the line, you need to be able to prevail.
I guess what I'm saying is, think to yourself, what if I had a real life threatening problem?
You need to be able to carry on in adverse conditions.Practice being tough.
Maybe it's some form of ADD?? I'm not sure;...what I can tell you is that I get canker sores all the friggen time and anbesol is in my purse at all times. Also take the pill/supplement called Lysine - it will make it go away 10 times faster than normal...then you can concentrate on other things :-)
hey! glad to hear i am not the only one with a canker sore right now! gosh, mine hurts terribly and drives me nuts everytime i go to do something or get something done here at work. little things really upset me and before i know it, i have a canker sore, or even worse, i get a great big fever blister. and why?? everything lately makes my world crash too. WE CAN BLAME IT ON THE GAS PRICES! :) TAKE CARE AND HEAL UP FAST!
I know this is a strange question for the mental health section:
The smallest things seem to throw my life off track and prevent me from doing things. It's like I'm like a thin pole balancing on the ground and it only takes a fly to send me crashing down.
Why are some people able to survive/ignore pitfalls in their lives better than others? A dumb example: Right now I have a mouth sore which causes continuos discomfort/pain. But because of this I put my whole life on hold: I don't study. I don't work. Basically I wait for it all to go away. It's like I have to be completely comfortable to be able to do anything.
Why are some people able to survive/ignore small pitfalls in their lives better than others?
Answer:
Well, I was like you to some extent. I think you need to hook up with someone tough, who doesn't let things bother them, and who is optimistic. When you run into real roadblocks down the line, you need to be able to prevail.
I guess what I'm saying is, think to yourself, what if I had a real life threatening problem?
You need to be able to carry on in adverse conditions.Practice being tough.
Maybe it's some form of ADD?? I'm not sure;...what I can tell you is that I get canker sores all the friggen time and anbesol is in my purse at all times. Also take the pill/supplement called Lysine - it will make it go away 10 times faster than normal...then you can concentrate on other things :-)
hey! glad to hear i am not the only one with a canker sore right now! gosh, mine hurts terribly and drives me nuts everytime i go to do something or get something done here at work. little things really upset me and before i know it, i have a canker sore, or even worse, i get a great big fever blister. and why?? everything lately makes my world crash too. WE CAN BLAME IT ON THE GAS PRICES! :) TAKE CARE AND HEAL UP FAST!
Can.....?
you have truoble w/ speaking/spelling if you have anxiety/depression??
Answer:
Yes. Both depression and anxiety can manifest themselves cognitively.
Yeah i have anxiety and depression and i slur my words and forget how to spell the smallest thing. i also lose my memory. i also find that i have the strangest dreams. its all crazy and makes you think your going mad. xxxx
yes and also if distracted alot on your mind and stress .
Answer:
Yes. Both depression and anxiety can manifest themselves cognitively.
Yeah i have anxiety and depression and i slur my words and forget how to spell the smallest thing. i also lose my memory. i also find that i have the strangest dreams. its all crazy and makes you think your going mad. xxxx
yes and also if distracted alot on your mind and stress .
Can your Doctor .....?
Hey there. Can your regular General Physician dianousge you as being bipolar?
Answer:
Yes.
However, GPs are NOT specialists in the area of psychiatry, and frankly, you would be wise to take most psychiatric diagnoses from GPs with a grain of salt. It is the equivilent of employing your allergist to adminster anesthesia. Yes, both are doctors, but both specialize in radically different areas of medicine.
For a thorough evaluation and appropriate treatment for bipolar disorder, you would be well served to see either a psychiatrist (M.D.) or a psychologist (Ph.D./ Psy.D.)
they can say what they think you have ,but ,they have to send you to a psychiatrist to prove it
a good g.p.will refer you to a psychiatrist knowing that he/she is better equipped to diagnose such a disorder.
Yes, I have been diagnosed as bipolar 2 from a regular doctor. The problem is when they want to put you on medicine. I would suggest seeing a therapist to have them decide what is best. They know all of the right medicines and what doses to start at.
I don't really think so unless they specialize in mental health but hey what do I know
Answer:
Yes.
However, GPs are NOT specialists in the area of psychiatry, and frankly, you would be wise to take most psychiatric diagnoses from GPs with a grain of salt. It is the equivilent of employing your allergist to adminster anesthesia. Yes, both are doctors, but both specialize in radically different areas of medicine.
For a thorough evaluation and appropriate treatment for bipolar disorder, you would be well served to see either a psychiatrist (M.D.) or a psychologist (Ph.D./ Psy.D.)
they can say what they think you have ,but ,they have to send you to a psychiatrist to prove it
a good g.p.will refer you to a psychiatrist knowing that he/she is better equipped to diagnose such a disorder.
Yes, I have been diagnosed as bipolar 2 from a regular doctor. The problem is when they want to put you on medicine. I would suggest seeing a therapist to have them decide what is best. They know all of the right medicines and what doses to start at.
I don't really think so unless they specialize in mental health but hey what do I know
Can you think of anything silly i can do at work that won't get me a raise for doing it?
Answer:
sounds like all you will have to do is open your mouth and let the words come out
why dont you want a raise
check out my 360 page
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-veiz_d45f...
not wanting a raise weird but i did this get a thin tool and take off the 'n' and 'm' keys and put them on back the other key
but if u won't bigger try filling his/her office with the packing peanuts
Dress up for Halloween in May!
Peace.
Can you tell me what this guy is thinking??
when go to the firework festival he doesnt want to go on the bridge because hes afraid it will collapse??
at night past 12am he tells everyone to turn off the light because he doesnt want people outside to know that we are the only apartment in the building awake?
Answer:
these two things don't seem to be related. He's just a little over cautious. Perhaps he feels that in the area in which he lives, it isn't the best idea to advertise yourself at night.
He may just not like putting himself in a situation which poses any risk.
I wouldn't describe him as paranoid, paranoia is a symptom of musch more serious disorders, if he thought people were watching the house at night or were trying to harm him, this is more typical of being paranoid.
he might be affraid of hights or lights?!
He is paranoid. Or better put.. he is living in fear. Perhaps do to a traumatic experience(s).
I am thinking when he was a child he may have been brought up to believe that such things are real. Some parents can seriously make a child believe something all the way through there teens, my suggestion would to be talk to your Friend about his childhood, see what he has to say, he may need counseling which is not a bad thing.
hmmmmm.. A little paranoid I think?
Symptoms of Paranoia
The main symptom is permanent delusion. It should be kept in mind that there is delusion in schizophrenia also but in that case it is not permanent or organized. In paranoia the symptoms of delusion appear gradually, and the patient is sentimental, suspicious, irritable, introverted, depressed, obstinate, jealous, selfish, unsocial and bitter. Hence his social and family adjustment is not desirable, and while he has the highest desirable, the effort that he is prepared to expend is correspondingly little. Here the person does not acknowledge his own failures or faults, and by sometimes accepting certain qualities as belonging to himself, even when imaginary, he develops paranoia.
The "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders", fourth edition (DSM-IV), the US manual of the mental health professional; lists the following symptoms for paranoid personality disorder:
i do not think some thing is wrong some people do think this.
He is in a witnees relocation program and is really scared.
He could be in the beginnings of paranoia. Encourage him to get help.
Just a LITTLE bit paranoid don't you think? Make sure he doesn't own any firearms or knives.
He may be paronoid or hiding out from someone
Sound like he is paranoid does he smoke weed or do other hallucinate drugs?
i would say it is most likely from his childhood maybe he doesn't even remember experiences that caused the parinoya(that's spelled wrong) but they have affected his brain and how he acts it's nothing to be alarmaed about a therapist could talk and "awaken" the inner child and possibly "quiet" these fears if it bothers you that much they seem to be little things that you could just adapt to, but you never know if they could grow into something you know? but it just seems to be something from the past that has haunted him a while
He's definitely feeling insecure.
Does anyone he's related to, know anything about what may have caused such irrational behavior?
Plane and simple Paranoia
This guy needs help, Find a way for him to speak to a shrink(psychologist)
i don`t think it`s paranoia...many ppl are afraid of bridges...and about the lights..why don`t u ask him?he might enlighten u better than us:)
maybe he is just a little sketchy and that is a form of OCD but you as a friend which i am assuming you are should either deal with it or if it bothers you that much then don't worry about hanging out with him... he probably just has lttle things that make him scared is all it's very normal now a days
at night past 12am he tells everyone to turn off the light because he doesnt want people outside to know that we are the only apartment in the building awake?
Answer:
these two things don't seem to be related. He's just a little over cautious. Perhaps he feels that in the area in which he lives, it isn't the best idea to advertise yourself at night.
He may just not like putting himself in a situation which poses any risk.
I wouldn't describe him as paranoid, paranoia is a symptom of musch more serious disorders, if he thought people were watching the house at night or were trying to harm him, this is more typical of being paranoid.
he might be affraid of hights or lights?!
He is paranoid. Or better put.. he is living in fear. Perhaps do to a traumatic experience(s).
I am thinking when he was a child he may have been brought up to believe that such things are real. Some parents can seriously make a child believe something all the way through there teens, my suggestion would to be talk to your Friend about his childhood, see what he has to say, he may need counseling which is not a bad thing.
hmmmmm.. A little paranoid I think?
Symptoms of Paranoia
The main symptom is permanent delusion. It should be kept in mind that there is delusion in schizophrenia also but in that case it is not permanent or organized. In paranoia the symptoms of delusion appear gradually, and the patient is sentimental, suspicious, irritable, introverted, depressed, obstinate, jealous, selfish, unsocial and bitter. Hence his social and family adjustment is not desirable, and while he has the highest desirable, the effort that he is prepared to expend is correspondingly little. Here the person does not acknowledge his own failures or faults, and by sometimes accepting certain qualities as belonging to himself, even when imaginary, he develops paranoia.
The "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders", fourth edition (DSM-IV), the US manual of the mental health professional; lists the following symptoms for paranoid personality disorder:
i do not think some thing is wrong some people do think this.
He is in a witnees relocation program and is really scared.
He could be in the beginnings of paranoia. Encourage him to get help.
Just a LITTLE bit paranoid don't you think? Make sure he doesn't own any firearms or knives.
He may be paronoid or hiding out from someone
Sound like he is paranoid does he smoke weed or do other hallucinate drugs?
i would say it is most likely from his childhood maybe he doesn't even remember experiences that caused the parinoya(that's spelled wrong) but they have affected his brain and how he acts it's nothing to be alarmaed about a therapist could talk and "awaken" the inner child and possibly "quiet" these fears if it bothers you that much they seem to be little things that you could just adapt to, but you never know if they could grow into something you know? but it just seems to be something from the past that has haunted him a while
He's definitely feeling insecure.
Does anyone he's related to, know anything about what may have caused such irrational behavior?
Plane and simple Paranoia
This guy needs help, Find a way for him to speak to a shrink(psychologist)
i don`t think it`s paranoia...many ppl are afraid of bridges...and about the lights..why don`t u ask him?he might enlighten u better than us:)
maybe he is just a little sketchy and that is a form of OCD but you as a friend which i am assuming you are should either deal with it or if it bothers you that much then don't worry about hanging out with him... he probably just has lttle things that make him scared is all it's very normal now a days
Can you take lexapro and strattera together safely?
Answer:
Yes so long as your doc is aware that you are on both medications.
I suggest continuing the Strattera. See ADD/ADHD, depression and anxiety at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 7, 2, and 6. Go to the depression perception and uplift program, then the antidepressant websites. Practise one of the relaxation methods daily, and when needed, and give the EFT a good tryout, as well.
Can you take gravol while on 300mg of Seroquel?
..feel really nauseous, probably from other medication, but nonetheless
Answer:
If your nausea is being caused by medication, I wouldn't suggest taking Gravol. If you believe it is medication related, I would talk to your doctor and see what they say. They may want to prescribe you something else if the nausea is significant enough on a daily basis.
Answer:
If your nausea is being caused by medication, I wouldn't suggest taking Gravol. If you believe it is medication related, I would talk to your doctor and see what they say. They may want to prescribe you something else if the nausea is significant enough on a daily basis.
Can you suggest some good sites?
I am depressed. I don't have any friends or family. I also have little money, so I can't afford a counselor.
I am NOT religious, and do not want to go to any religious person.
Is there any websites out there that can offer me advice to get over depression and loneliness? I have no one.
Answer:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/depress...
or
http://www.webmd.com
ByeDr.com. do a search on some search engines and look for answers on your specific depression type. as for now, learn to put value on yourself before you even think of others. do this through meditation. it might help even just for a short term.
www.dailystrength.org
It's a great place to start a wellness journal so you can track your progress. Members share advice, treatment experiences, and support each other. I've only been using the site for a short time, and already it's been a tremendous help.
You don't have to be religious to pray, I believe that we can pray and there are spirits or angels that are there for us, that guide and keep us. You may feel as if no one is listening or cares and I have been where you are. In fact, I was in a place in my life that I simply didn't come out of my room or face the world for close to a year. I suggest you go here http://www.prayerrequestsite.com/... and post your prayer request, there are so many people out there that care, even if you don't feel it or know it, and they too will pray for you. I know your loneliness, I have been there many times. You need to believe that there is a reason for all the suffering you feel, even if its hard to accept. Please Listen, although you may not want me as a friend I would be honored to be have you as my friend. I know how you feel, and there are millions of others that do as well. You need to dig to the deepest part of your being and find the strength it takes to get by in this forgive less world, and remember that there is a reason for all of it. Just like your answer for the seasons, in all seasons there is change. Whether its death as in winter or life in spring, the beauty that comes out of each is signifigant just like your existance, there is purpose!
try www.nolongerlonely.com. i am here when u need a friend dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. try walking it helps
well ByeDr.com is a good website for me and i like it alot. you can look at other questions and answers and find that you are deffinatly not the only one. for instance i have severe anxiety and depression. i have no insurance and i go to a clinic that is based off your income and they have a program where you can get your meds for free. they also have a counsler there as well. most counslers will not use their religion to sway you. however i do have to say that god answers all prayers, they just may not be what you want all the time. keep praying he is listening and is with you at all times. if you go to your local welfare office they can point you in the right direction of some counsling and medical treatment if needed. also you can email and message me anytime. i am more than happy to listen and let you know that you are not the only one who feels the way that you do. i am not a counsler but i am good a support. hope this helps
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.co...
coping.org
I often go to the library a couple of times a week or more. I'll get little books that I can finish fairly quick or a big book. These little trips make me feel like I got something.
Just go out and see the world around you. You may go on foot, cycle, bike or local bus or train and come back. Every thing will be OK. Also practise Yoga...
i was brought up in care i suffer from post tramatic stress disorder depression, bi polr, split personaillty, skitsophia, i have no family only my three children and i have moved 14 times in the pased 3 years because of domestic violence. i now live about 80 miles from my home town. i have no friends family or connections.
so i really understand were your coming from.
i think you should firstly go to your gp who can refer you to councilling which can take time. or local groups could help. if your in england there is a group called dias which is nation wide which has a drop in center and run an appointment bases system. it only took me 2 weeks for an appointment. the drop in is fab anytime you feeel down depressed or just want a chat or brew with someone. its nothing to do with domestic violence although it does council people for this also.
i found this great please look in your yellow pages for this dias it really helps me and it free.
best wishes and regards carrie
My friend, I assure you that what I am sharing with you is true. I do not consider myself religious, although others would who don't know any better.
I understand about not wanting religion - that doesn't help. But there is a difference between religion and a relationship with God. I don't know what or how you prayed, or why you feel the prayer wasn't answered, but there is a reason.
Jesus can freely give you abundant life if you ask Him - He is the only one who can save. He stands at the door of your heart and knocks - all you do is open your heart to Him by asking Him to come in. He is the Friend you are looking for. I have known Him for 25 years.
I recommend finding a good Bible-believing Spirit-filled (full Gospel) church. I have attended Assembly of God and Foursquare churches, but there are many others. Ask Him, and He will lead you to one.
Maybe the problem is that you are waiting instead of becoming active. There should be a community mental health center that will take you on a sliding fee scale. Activity is a great mood elevator. Do what you don't want to do and see if that helps
this all depends on what you are praying for i have ben in your posotion (worst) and i prayed every night and day for god to keep anyone else from being like that i never prayed for money or love just peace and contentment and happyness if i could be lucky enough
I am NOT religious, and do not want to go to any religious person.
Is there any websites out there that can offer me advice to get over depression and loneliness? I have no one.
Answer:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/depress...
or
http://www.webmd.com
ByeDr.com. do a search on some search engines and look for answers on your specific depression type. as for now, learn to put value on yourself before you even think of others. do this through meditation. it might help even just for a short term.
www.dailystrength.org
It's a great place to start a wellness journal so you can track your progress. Members share advice, treatment experiences, and support each other. I've only been using the site for a short time, and already it's been a tremendous help.
You don't have to be religious to pray, I believe that we can pray and there are spirits or angels that are there for us, that guide and keep us. You may feel as if no one is listening or cares and I have been where you are. In fact, I was in a place in my life that I simply didn't come out of my room or face the world for close to a year. I suggest you go here http://www.prayerrequestsite.com/... and post your prayer request, there are so many people out there that care, even if you don't feel it or know it, and they too will pray for you. I know your loneliness, I have been there many times. You need to believe that there is a reason for all the suffering you feel, even if its hard to accept. Please Listen, although you may not want me as a friend I would be honored to be have you as my friend. I know how you feel, and there are millions of others that do as well. You need to dig to the deepest part of your being and find the strength it takes to get by in this forgive less world, and remember that there is a reason for all of it. Just like your answer for the seasons, in all seasons there is change. Whether its death as in winter or life in spring, the beauty that comes out of each is signifigant just like your existance, there is purpose!
try www.nolongerlonely.com. i am here when u need a friend dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. try walking it helps
well ByeDr.com is a good website for me and i like it alot. you can look at other questions and answers and find that you are deffinatly not the only one. for instance i have severe anxiety and depression. i have no insurance and i go to a clinic that is based off your income and they have a program where you can get your meds for free. they also have a counsler there as well. most counslers will not use their religion to sway you. however i do have to say that god answers all prayers, they just may not be what you want all the time. keep praying he is listening and is with you at all times. if you go to your local welfare office they can point you in the right direction of some counsling and medical treatment if needed. also you can email and message me anytime. i am more than happy to listen and let you know that you are not the only one who feels the way that you do. i am not a counsler but i am good a support. hope this helps
http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.co...
coping.org
I often go to the library a couple of times a week or more. I'll get little books that I can finish fairly quick or a big book. These little trips make me feel like I got something.
Just go out and see the world around you. You may go on foot, cycle, bike or local bus or train and come back. Every thing will be OK. Also practise Yoga...
i was brought up in care i suffer from post tramatic stress disorder depression, bi polr, split personaillty, skitsophia, i have no family only my three children and i have moved 14 times in the pased 3 years because of domestic violence. i now live about 80 miles from my home town. i have no friends family or connections.
so i really understand were your coming from.
i think you should firstly go to your gp who can refer you to councilling which can take time. or local groups could help. if your in england there is a group called dias which is nation wide which has a drop in center and run an appointment bases system. it only took me 2 weeks for an appointment. the drop in is fab anytime you feeel down depressed or just want a chat or brew with someone. its nothing to do with domestic violence although it does council people for this also.
i found this great please look in your yellow pages for this dias it really helps me and it free.
best wishes and regards carrie
My friend, I assure you that what I am sharing with you is true. I do not consider myself religious, although others would who don't know any better.
I understand about not wanting religion - that doesn't help. But there is a difference between religion and a relationship with God. I don't know what or how you prayed, or why you feel the prayer wasn't answered, but there is a reason.
Jesus can freely give you abundant life if you ask Him - He is the only one who can save. He stands at the door of your heart and knocks - all you do is open your heart to Him by asking Him to come in. He is the Friend you are looking for. I have known Him for 25 years.
I recommend finding a good Bible-believing Spirit-filled (full Gospel) church. I have attended Assembly of God and Foursquare churches, but there are many others. Ask Him, and He will lead you to one.
Maybe the problem is that you are waiting instead of becoming active. There should be a community mental health center that will take you on a sliding fee scale. Activity is a great mood elevator. Do what you don't want to do and see if that helps
this all depends on what you are praying for i have ben in your posotion (worst) and i prayed every night and day for god to keep anyone else from being like that i never prayed for money or love just peace and contentment and happyness if i could be lucky enough
Can you stop taking Zoloff cold turkey or do you need to stop over a period of time.?
Been taking for a year now and want to stop.
Answer:
you need to stop gradually over a period of time and under a doctor's supervision
talk to your dr first and he will help you decide whats best for you.he also will prescribe a lower dosage til finally you can come completely off of Zoltloff.
You can stop taking Zoloft 'cold turkey', but you might experience some unpleasant side effects and a return of your symptoms. I know that antidepressant medication can be hell, so the physical side effects will be nothing compared to what it's doing to you. Most of the time people who go on antidepressants will relapse when going off of them because they never took the effort to heal from their ailment. Often therapy is required to cure mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety. There are people out there who do need these medications long term, but it's not as common.
Since you want to quit the meds, you could ask your psychiatrist about helping you taper off, but I know that a lot of doctors prefer you stay on the meds and will take as long as possible to taper you off of them. It keeps you coming back to them. This way, they keep making money. If you no longer need psych meds, why see a psychiatrist right? He may also refuse to take you off because you could relapse, but it is your right to refuse medications at any time. If he refuses to help you quit, tell him that you are quitting them either way. He may threaten to have you put in the hospital, but without evidence to suggest that you are a danger to yourself, it would be tricky and this is just an empty threat. It's more work for him to put you in the psychward than not and if there is anything I know about psychiatrists, I know that they are lazy.
On second though, it might be best to just stop on your own. This way you can avoid any nasty confrontations with the psychiatrist that may lead to your involuntary commitment when all you have to do is cancel your next appointment and quit the meds. Good luck!
i took zoloft for about 1 year and was able to stop cold turkey with no problems but every person may not have the same experience from the same meds, hopefully you can stop with no problems good luck to you
You need to talk to your doctor about it and ask how to taper off. Quitting cold turkey is a bad idea. I had an insurance issue about a year ago and ended up not taking my antidepressant for about a week (stopping cold turkey). I got really bad chest pains that took my breath away and ended up in the emergency room because I thought I was having a heart attack. It turned out that it was strong muscle spasms caused by stopping my medication suddenly. You never know what strange side effects there might be - so please be careful.
I am going on my 5th day of quitting cold turkey. I feel much less anxious than when I was taking the medication. I do feel consistantly light headed but it is bearable. I tool zoloft at 100 mg for 6 months for anxiety. Worked great at first then I grew increasing anxious. I can deal with this. Hope it does not get worse.
J
Answer:
you need to stop gradually over a period of time and under a doctor's supervision
talk to your dr first and he will help you decide whats best for you.he also will prescribe a lower dosage til finally you can come completely off of Zoltloff.
You can stop taking Zoloft 'cold turkey', but you might experience some unpleasant side effects and a return of your symptoms. I know that antidepressant medication can be hell, so the physical side effects will be nothing compared to what it's doing to you. Most of the time people who go on antidepressants will relapse when going off of them because they never took the effort to heal from their ailment. Often therapy is required to cure mental illnesses such as depression and anxiety. There are people out there who do need these medications long term, but it's not as common.
Since you want to quit the meds, you could ask your psychiatrist about helping you taper off, but I know that a lot of doctors prefer you stay on the meds and will take as long as possible to taper you off of them. It keeps you coming back to them. This way, they keep making money. If you no longer need psych meds, why see a psychiatrist right? He may also refuse to take you off because you could relapse, but it is your right to refuse medications at any time. If he refuses to help you quit, tell him that you are quitting them either way. He may threaten to have you put in the hospital, but without evidence to suggest that you are a danger to yourself, it would be tricky and this is just an empty threat. It's more work for him to put you in the psychward than not and if there is anything I know about psychiatrists, I know that they are lazy.
On second though, it might be best to just stop on your own. This way you can avoid any nasty confrontations with the psychiatrist that may lead to your involuntary commitment when all you have to do is cancel your next appointment and quit the meds. Good luck!
i took zoloft for about 1 year and was able to stop cold turkey with no problems but every person may not have the same experience from the same meds, hopefully you can stop with no problems good luck to you
You need to talk to your doctor about it and ask how to taper off. Quitting cold turkey is a bad idea. I had an insurance issue about a year ago and ended up not taking my antidepressant for about a week (stopping cold turkey). I got really bad chest pains that took my breath away and ended up in the emergency room because I thought I was having a heart attack. It turned out that it was strong muscle spasms caused by stopping my medication suddenly. You never know what strange side effects there might be - so please be careful.
I am going on my 5th day of quitting cold turkey. I feel much less anxious than when I was taking the medication. I do feel consistantly light headed but it is bearable. I tool zoloft at 100 mg for 6 months for anxiety. Worked great at first then I grew increasing anxious. I can deal with this. Hope it does not get worse.
J
Can you shrink a dead serious hoodie??
I just bought one one on ebay and it is too big for me
the color is torqouise
thanks
Answer:
Yeah, you sure can.Wash it , it really does'nt matter what temputure you use, perferably hot water. Then here comes the shrinking part.Put it in the dryer and set the timer up on high. High as it can go.I hope it dont shrink more than you want it to. Good Luck!!
You can try by washing it on the hottest water setting, and drying on the hottest setting. If that doesn't work, nothing will.
the color is torqouise
thanks
Answer:
Yeah, you sure can.Wash it , it really does'nt matter what temputure you use, perferably hot water. Then here comes the shrinking part.Put it in the dryer and set the timer up on high. High as it can go.I hope it dont shrink more than you want it to. Good Luck!!
You can try by washing it on the hottest water setting, and drying on the hottest setting. If that doesn't work, nothing will.
Can you see what's wrong here?
He's in his 50's, is at mom's house all day every day, only sleeps and eats at his home. Has been on Oxycontin (for pain) for years (but says he's not addicted) says he doesn't drink but signs of a closet drinker. Behavior is gruff and rude and angry a good part of the time and usually for no reason. Couldn't follow through on marriage plans. What do you see??
Answer:
I see a lonely person(staying with mom all day)=drinking to try and get rid of this feeling=gruff and rude as he can't help himself and doesn't want to ask others for help either=got scared of commitment(marraige)
addicted to pain meds and alcoholic- not a good combo
A sad alcoholic whos most likely given up on life
an addict? u should tell ur mother to either tell him to get some help or leave him
Can he say the word "REHAB"? That would be a good thing to consider. What a waste of life.
Answer:
I see a lonely person(staying with mom all day)=drinking to try and get rid of this feeling=gruff and rude as he can't help himself and doesn't want to ask others for help either=got scared of commitment(marraige)
addicted to pain meds and alcoholic- not a good combo
A sad alcoholic whos most likely given up on life
an addict? u should tell ur mother to either tell him to get some help or leave him
Can he say the word "REHAB"? That would be a good thing to consider. What a waste of life.
Can you please pray for me?
I am very depressed right now. My daughter was diagnosed with Leukemia last year and we went through so much together as she had a bone marrow transplant. I was very strong through everything but now a year later, I am a mess. So depressed and feeling suicidal. Please pray for strength for me and that the enemy will not torment my mind anymore. I feel like a failure because I'm having such a hard time trying to get back to work and back to normal life. Thank you for your prayers.
Answer:
Don't worry I'll pray for you and keep staying strong. Your doing a great job through all this mess.
I don't pray.
I work at in two different hospitals. One is a mental health hospital. I see many cases like yours. You can always call someone or get help for your daughter.
I will say a pray and my pray group will also, good luck.
I don't usually pray but in this case I am definately making an exception. I hope with all my heart that you can start to feel more confident and secure. You deserve it. If you have been as strong as you say you have been in the past then you definately have it in you. I think everyone thinks about suicide from time to time. I know I have and I have hardly the woes that you have. Is your daughter OK? She does need you to be strong. Don't give up and if you need to tak to somebody call 1800 273 talk. There is somebody there who will listen. My prayers today are for you. Keep smilin because even though life can work against us from time to time it is usually just trying to teach us a lessson. For you i pray.
You need to get yourself to a support group. Talk to other parents who have gone through exactly what you're going through (Ashley, right?) with your daughter. Please call her oncologist's office. The staff can give you LOTS of information on support groups.
Please use them. Even thought it was last year. Sometimes people rally during a crisis. They feel needed and have a purpose. When the worst of the crisis is over, the depression of the situation hits hard and you feel like you don't have a purpose anymore.
I WILL PRAY FOR YOU ALL THE TIME THE DOCOR TOLD MY SON HE MIGHT HAVE LUKEMIA BUT AFTER ALOT OF TESTING AND LOTS OF PRAYER!! HE DIDNY HAVE IT THANK GOD SO I WILL PRAY EVERYDAY FOR STRENGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER
i'll pray 4r u
Smiles, you keep smiling and keep the faith. I will pray for you.I know God is going to do something good for you for all you've been through. God Bless
I'm very sorry about all you and your daughter have been threw .Everyone gets down and out at times.Just think of this way , God put you here for a reason and when he gets ready for any of us . We don't have a choice , Please I ask in the name of Jesus to hold you both in his hands . Walk with Jesus and every thing will be alright . Don't for get to thank him for all he has done , he gave you your daughter ,And sometimes it's hard not to ask way ?? But never have a dought he knows what he is doing .Things will get better .
I have already said a prayer for you. Times will get better. God does not give us more than we can handle, but as you probably know, life is a challenge that sometimes seem unrealistic. The follow passage came to mind when I read your message:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Phi 4:6-7
No one can promise that the worse is behind you BUT, through prayer, you are never trully alone.
God blessed you by allowing you to continue life with your daughter. Return the favor by being the best support you can be for her. But remember, once a week or month, take a few hours for you...go see a movie, talk to your priest or a confidant, just go sit at a park. Alone time for Mom is necessary too.
I will pray for you, your daughter and your family. Try and stay strong and remember that you are never alone. Do you have family, friends or clergy that you could talk with? I think anything good you can do for 'yourself' right now would be recommended.
I will be happy to pray for you. What you went through was very traumatic and your mind may now be at a point when it is ready/must deal with your experience. I know if we ask Our Father he will help us and comfort us. You also might try contacting your church or your local Catholic church (you don't have to be Catholic to contact them). Remember God will never give us more than we can handle and he is there to support us
i'll pray for you hun
Why would you want to kill yourself if your daughter is still alive? Isn't that a bit selfish? It seems to me that if you were strong enough to make it through her Leukemia treatment, then you are able to make it through this.
It almost sounds like you expected your life to go back to normal after your daughter's surgery. It just seems that what you are going through now is what you couldn't go through then. You have to be strong for her. Have faith. God doesn't give you anything He doesn't believe you can't handle.
Best of luck
Dont worry i will ('',) you can count on me__x
May the higher power bring luck to you and your daughter.
Have you ever heard of 'The Serenity Prayer?'
It goes like this..
The Serenity Prayer
God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
I don't pray anymore, I kind of lost my religion.
I have know so many people with different forms of cancer, some very dear to me. For some, it is easy to be strong in a crisis. Others rely so heavily on you, you find compelled to support, nurture and be strong, often ignoring your own needs.
It is 100% understandable that you would feel this inner strength drain away once the crisis is over...its called going into shock.
You went through a terrible event, the threat of losing your own flesh and blood, a great battle against an adversary who never fights fair.I don't know how your daughter is now, but I sincerely wish you may share many happy years with her, and that her life may be joyous and full.
Please seek counseling. How can you fully support her if you yourself are an emotional time bomb? How guilty she would feel if she realised in future that you let yourself be torn apart and destroyed because you were too busy supporting her to care for your own needs. You owe it to her, and yourself.
As said, I don't pray, not in a conventional way. I pray in a spiritual manner, no religion involved. My love and positive thoughts are with you. I know for a fact that good people do get their dues. You are a wonderful person, your reward and future strength that you will receive will reflect this. But please seek proffessional assistance so that you can stand firm and be there for your daughter without sacrificing your sanity and happiness.
My goodwill and love are with you.
I will pray for you. I just want you to know that when you were going through that horrific experience with your daughter you were strong for her and so busy you probably suppressed your own very understandable feeling of anger, sadness, and rage at the disease. Now it looks like things are calmer and all the above feelings are hitting you like a ton of bricks now. Depression and suicidally is not uncommon but please get help. Anyone who had a child would need to vent to a person/therapist/clergy whatever works for you. Please seek some assistance it's not a sign of weakness but strength that you ask for help. You did it here and I'm sure many will have you in their prayers and you don't need to thank anyone for that kind of kindness. We are all people that deserve others compassion for their problems. I hope you will find strength in the lord or with others.
Answer:
Don't worry I'll pray for you and keep staying strong. Your doing a great job through all this mess.
I don't pray.
I work at in two different hospitals. One is a mental health hospital. I see many cases like yours. You can always call someone or get help for your daughter.
I will say a pray and my pray group will also, good luck.
I don't usually pray but in this case I am definately making an exception. I hope with all my heart that you can start to feel more confident and secure. You deserve it. If you have been as strong as you say you have been in the past then you definately have it in you. I think everyone thinks about suicide from time to time. I know I have and I have hardly the woes that you have. Is your daughter OK? She does need you to be strong. Don't give up and if you need to tak to somebody call 1800 273 talk. There is somebody there who will listen. My prayers today are for you. Keep smilin because even though life can work against us from time to time it is usually just trying to teach us a lessson. For you i pray.
You need to get yourself to a support group. Talk to other parents who have gone through exactly what you're going through (Ashley, right?) with your daughter. Please call her oncologist's office. The staff can give you LOTS of information on support groups.
Please use them. Even thought it was last year. Sometimes people rally during a crisis. They feel needed and have a purpose. When the worst of the crisis is over, the depression of the situation hits hard and you feel like you don't have a purpose anymore.
I WILL PRAY FOR YOU ALL THE TIME THE DOCOR TOLD MY SON HE MIGHT HAVE LUKEMIA BUT AFTER ALOT OF TESTING AND LOTS OF PRAYER!! HE DIDNY HAVE IT THANK GOD SO I WILL PRAY EVERYDAY FOR STRENGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER
i'll pray 4r u
Smiles, you keep smiling and keep the faith. I will pray for you.I know God is going to do something good for you for all you've been through. God Bless
I'm very sorry about all you and your daughter have been threw .Everyone gets down and out at times.Just think of this way , God put you here for a reason and when he gets ready for any of us . We don't have a choice , Please I ask in the name of Jesus to hold you both in his hands . Walk with Jesus and every thing will be alright . Don't for get to thank him for all he has done , he gave you your daughter ,And sometimes it's hard not to ask way ?? But never have a dought he knows what he is doing .Things will get better .
I have already said a prayer for you. Times will get better. God does not give us more than we can handle, but as you probably know, life is a challenge that sometimes seem unrealistic. The follow passage came to mind when I read your message:
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Phi 4:6-7
No one can promise that the worse is behind you BUT, through prayer, you are never trully alone.
God blessed you by allowing you to continue life with your daughter. Return the favor by being the best support you can be for her. But remember, once a week or month, take a few hours for you...go see a movie, talk to your priest or a confidant, just go sit at a park. Alone time for Mom is necessary too.
I will pray for you, your daughter and your family. Try and stay strong and remember that you are never alone. Do you have family, friends or clergy that you could talk with? I think anything good you can do for 'yourself' right now would be recommended.
I will be happy to pray for you. What you went through was very traumatic and your mind may now be at a point when it is ready/must deal with your experience. I know if we ask Our Father he will help us and comfort us. You also might try contacting your church or your local Catholic church (you don't have to be Catholic to contact them). Remember God will never give us more than we can handle and he is there to support us
i'll pray for you hun
Why would you want to kill yourself if your daughter is still alive? Isn't that a bit selfish? It seems to me that if you were strong enough to make it through her Leukemia treatment, then you are able to make it through this.
It almost sounds like you expected your life to go back to normal after your daughter's surgery. It just seems that what you are going through now is what you couldn't go through then. You have to be strong for her. Have faith. God doesn't give you anything He doesn't believe you can't handle.
Best of luck
Dont worry i will ('',) you can count on me__x
May the higher power bring luck to you and your daughter.
Have you ever heard of 'The Serenity Prayer?'
It goes like this..
The Serenity Prayer
God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
I don't pray anymore, I kind of lost my religion.
I have know so many people with different forms of cancer, some very dear to me. For some, it is easy to be strong in a crisis. Others rely so heavily on you, you find compelled to support, nurture and be strong, often ignoring your own needs.
It is 100% understandable that you would feel this inner strength drain away once the crisis is over...its called going into shock.
You went through a terrible event, the threat of losing your own flesh and blood, a great battle against an adversary who never fights fair.I don't know how your daughter is now, but I sincerely wish you may share many happy years with her, and that her life may be joyous and full.
Please seek counseling. How can you fully support her if you yourself are an emotional time bomb? How guilty she would feel if she realised in future that you let yourself be torn apart and destroyed because you were too busy supporting her to care for your own needs. You owe it to her, and yourself.
As said, I don't pray, not in a conventional way. I pray in a spiritual manner, no religion involved. My love and positive thoughts are with you. I know for a fact that good people do get their dues. You are a wonderful person, your reward and future strength that you will receive will reflect this. But please seek proffessional assistance so that you can stand firm and be there for your daughter without sacrificing your sanity and happiness.
My goodwill and love are with you.
I will pray for you. I just want you to know that when you were going through that horrific experience with your daughter you were strong for her and so busy you probably suppressed your own very understandable feeling of anger, sadness, and rage at the disease. Now it looks like things are calmer and all the above feelings are hitting you like a ton of bricks now. Depression and suicidally is not uncommon but please get help. Anyone who had a child would need to vent to a person/therapist/clergy whatever works for you. Please seek some assistance it's not a sign of weakness but strength that you ask for help. You did it here and I'm sure many will have you in their prayers and you don't need to thank anyone for that kind of kindness. We are all people that deserve others compassion for their problems. I hope you will find strength in the lord or with others.
Can you kill some1 by not letting them get any sleep?
Answer:
One nights loss of sleep is not going to kill anyone, however, cumulatively, if there is a great deal of loss of sleep then possibly. The lack of sleep itself isn't what might kill a person, it's the lack of the body's ability to function due to the lack of sleep. For instance, not having any sleep for a long time slows your bodies ability normally regulate heart rate because your body hasn't rested- ( to re energize) thus, this could, in time, lead to heart problems that yes, could lead to death .
yea, cuz when you sleep, you are 'refueling' your brain. if they dont, then they can go crazy!
why do you ask?
I dont know if i want to answer this question but yes.
How are you going to do that? I think they'll fall asleep after some time and there's nothing you can do about it. But hypothetically yes, its possible.
Can you inherit a mental illness??
because my mom is mentally ill and im scared that i will be just like her. you know like the phsycho kind. not like adhd or anything but flat out craziness. please be honest. : (
Answer:
Well honey I know this is a tough thing to go through and unfortunatley in some situations yes, but not all. You have to have faith in God pray for protection. If you feel as though you are showing some signs of being like her, then you need to discuss it with a counselor immediatley. It also depends on what the mental illness is. My mom has some depression issues and anger issues. I think the reason I have some of the same issues is because it was a learned behavior, meaning I was raised in that enviornment with her so I didn't know how to deal with my anger. Well years later here I am and I realzie that now because I educated myself on how to handle situations with out anger and abuse. I still have to fight it off now, but I have counselors to help me deal with those issues when they get out of line. Please contact me if I can help any further I would love to talk with you. Hope this helps
Yes, heredity is a big factor on whether you will get a mental illness of not. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
There is believed to be some heredity in mental illness, however that does not at all guarantee you will end up with the same situation as mom. There are other environmental factors that can worsen or lessen mental disorders as well.
Yes, you can. My father is mentally ill, but don't worry about it to much or it will drive you insane. Just be checked regularly by your Doctor. If you take the medicine you should be OK. Just don't worry about something when there is nothing to worry about.
Just like you could have inherited your mom's hair or eye color you could likewise inherit the chemical inbalance associated with many mental illnesses. It won't be the end of the world if you do. Many successful people suffer from mental illness.
Yes, certain mental illnesses are definitely considered hereditary, but it is my personal belief that any mental or physical illness can be treated if not improved or cured by diet. I have far too much info pertaining to this subject to even begin to give details.
Mental illnesses are not exactly hereditary (because when you say hereditary, it's like being already certain to some degree that one shall acquire the disorder). Generally though, if one has or has had a mentally ill member in the family tree, there exists already a "genetic predisposition" among the members. For example, if my grandfather is schizophrenic then I have a genetic predisposition to developing schizophrenia too.
Unfortunately, you can, but don't get scared yet. Very few, and only severe mental illnesses are genetically passed down. Schitzophrenia is one of them, but even if your mom has it, you won't necessarily. Most people exhibit some signs of mental illness by their teens. Please don't freak out about it; the more you worry about what you don't know, the more you'll agitate yourself, and it's hard enough dealing with your family now. Believe me, I know. Stay strong and believe.
You inherit the brain chemistry that causes mental illnesses like anxiety, depression, etc, but if you take care of yourself properly, you can prevent any problems.
Yes, it is possible to inherit a mental illness. In the field of psychology there are two factors that influence a personal mental develpment nature and nurture. Nature meaning genetics and organic environment. Nurture refers to variable factors in a person's life brought in by their surrounding environment which causes a mental illness. It is important that you get a complete and accurate mental health history from members of your family. There may be a chemical imbalance, or behavior disorder that was passed down genetically, and you have no control over. Other than that, just watch out for signs that you are not yourself, or that something has changed. If that is the case, then you should be evaluated by a mental health professional immediately. If you feel like yourself, and don't see yourself actiing like your mother, then you may not receive the same mental illness that your mother has, and you should be able to move on with your life without worrying. Thanks.
Don't worry, inherited characteristics can skip a generation or two, or three. In any case, your mom's problems may relate to her early childhood rather than a genetic trait which is passed down through the family..
I have found that writing down in words what somebody says and does helps me to come to terms with it. He said this, he did this and it was a problem because... It may be a good idea to keep a diary.
You can't directly inherit a mental illness but you can inherit a tendency toward it. I had a close friend who was adopted and had three sisters. Both my friend and two of his sisters committed suicide. The third sister has been trying to kill herself for a long time but has been thus far unsuccessful. Their father was also suicidal but never succeeded. As far as the nature vs. nurture argument, it's strange that my friend was adopted but he seemed to soak up all the craziness that ran in that family...
well karen...could be you weill be just fine.my grand-mother committed suicide over her mental illness, my mom has alot of mental issues, but is fine with the appropiate medication, and here I am ...taking meds for panoic/anxiety. So..you have a higher chance.worst thing you can do is start thinking about it all the time, and not enjoying life.
Just relax and enjoy your life!
maybe. u could do some research.
absolutely most mental illness is inherited
probably you inherit genes and all that sciency stuff i forgetted
Answer:
Well honey I know this is a tough thing to go through and unfortunatley in some situations yes, but not all. You have to have faith in God pray for protection. If you feel as though you are showing some signs of being like her, then you need to discuss it with a counselor immediatley. It also depends on what the mental illness is. My mom has some depression issues and anger issues. I think the reason I have some of the same issues is because it was a learned behavior, meaning I was raised in that enviornment with her so I didn't know how to deal with my anger. Well years later here I am and I realzie that now because I educated myself on how to handle situations with out anger and abuse. I still have to fight it off now, but I have counselors to help me deal with those issues when they get out of line. Please contact me if I can help any further I would love to talk with you. Hope this helps
Yes, heredity is a big factor on whether you will get a mental illness of not. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
There is believed to be some heredity in mental illness, however that does not at all guarantee you will end up with the same situation as mom. There are other environmental factors that can worsen or lessen mental disorders as well.
Yes, you can. My father is mentally ill, but don't worry about it to much or it will drive you insane. Just be checked regularly by your Doctor. If you take the medicine you should be OK. Just don't worry about something when there is nothing to worry about.
Just like you could have inherited your mom's hair or eye color you could likewise inherit the chemical inbalance associated with many mental illnesses. It won't be the end of the world if you do. Many successful people suffer from mental illness.
Yes, certain mental illnesses are definitely considered hereditary, but it is my personal belief that any mental or physical illness can be treated if not improved or cured by diet. I have far too much info pertaining to this subject to even begin to give details.
Mental illnesses are not exactly hereditary (because when you say hereditary, it's like being already certain to some degree that one shall acquire the disorder). Generally though, if one has or has had a mentally ill member in the family tree, there exists already a "genetic predisposition" among the members. For example, if my grandfather is schizophrenic then I have a genetic predisposition to developing schizophrenia too.
Unfortunately, you can, but don't get scared yet. Very few, and only severe mental illnesses are genetically passed down. Schitzophrenia is one of them, but even if your mom has it, you won't necessarily. Most people exhibit some signs of mental illness by their teens. Please don't freak out about it; the more you worry about what you don't know, the more you'll agitate yourself, and it's hard enough dealing with your family now. Believe me, I know. Stay strong and believe.
You inherit the brain chemistry that causes mental illnesses like anxiety, depression, etc, but if you take care of yourself properly, you can prevent any problems.
Yes, it is possible to inherit a mental illness. In the field of psychology there are two factors that influence a personal mental develpment nature and nurture. Nature meaning genetics and organic environment. Nurture refers to variable factors in a person's life brought in by their surrounding environment which causes a mental illness. It is important that you get a complete and accurate mental health history from members of your family. There may be a chemical imbalance, or behavior disorder that was passed down genetically, and you have no control over. Other than that, just watch out for signs that you are not yourself, or that something has changed. If that is the case, then you should be evaluated by a mental health professional immediately. If you feel like yourself, and don't see yourself actiing like your mother, then you may not receive the same mental illness that your mother has, and you should be able to move on with your life without worrying. Thanks.
Don't worry, inherited characteristics can skip a generation or two, or three. In any case, your mom's problems may relate to her early childhood rather than a genetic trait which is passed down through the family..
I have found that writing down in words what somebody says and does helps me to come to terms with it. He said this, he did this and it was a problem because... It may be a good idea to keep a diary.
You can't directly inherit a mental illness but you can inherit a tendency toward it. I had a close friend who was adopted and had three sisters. Both my friend and two of his sisters committed suicide. The third sister has been trying to kill herself for a long time but has been thus far unsuccessful. Their father was also suicidal but never succeeded. As far as the nature vs. nurture argument, it's strange that my friend was adopted but he seemed to soak up all the craziness that ran in that family...
well karen...could be you weill be just fine.my grand-mother committed suicide over her mental illness, my mom has alot of mental issues, but is fine with the appropiate medication, and here I am ...taking meds for panoic/anxiety. So..you have a higher chance.worst thing you can do is start thinking about it all the time, and not enjoying life.
Just relax and enjoy your life!
maybe. u could do some research.
absolutely most mental illness is inherited
probably you inherit genes and all that sciency stuff i forgetted
Can you help me find a job i am 16 years old?
Answer:
As per law, anyone under eighteen years of age is considered a minor. Employers of minors are subject to restrictions on the number of hours and time of the day when they can work, so it difficult to find suitable jobs for minors. A better option is to work on your computer/internet from home. You could write articles,sell on eBay,make a website,take surveys. More details at http://www.pcworkathome.net/jobsforminor...
Hahahaha..you are kidding, right?
How could anyone here help you get a job?
Go look in your local paper.
I would go into the first McDonalds if I were you.
to get a head you gotta give head
FInding a job at 16 is hard but not impossible. Go to your local grocery store and see if you can get a job as a bag boy/girl. Go to neighbors and tell them you are willing to cut the grass, pull weeds, pick up dog poop, clean the pool, rake, etc.
Look around the neighborhood. I bet many houses have weeds growing in the sidewalk and around the curb edge. Buy some of the WeedBGone and knock on the door and offer to spray it for the summer for $5, which means about every other week or less.
Offer a car wash or waxing service. You don't have to drive. Just bring all the equipment with you. I know I have used this one.
Start a window washing service because most people don't want to wash their windows or have the time.
Just think of things around the neighborhood that your mother/father says "I never have time to" and offer that service.
Can you have "too much" on your plate, leading to a nervous breakdown?
So I go to college and work. I take seven classes and work 50 hours a week. I've been working full time since I was 15, so almost a decade of this without breaks. I sleep about 4 hours a night. Since college, I haven't had time to concentrate on homework and have always barely passed or failed and had to retake the course. Because of this I feel overwhelmed and like a failure. My dad works really hard, and instilled a great work ethic in me, but for example if I come home from work sick or am absent, he'll call me a loser who will end up on welfare. (I just moved back in with him because I'm saving up for bigger and better things).
Lately I've been having panic attacks, sleeping even less, and just in general freaking out. I feel like I can't quit or go part time. I feel trapped. I'm failing my classes. Any outsider's perspectives on this situation? Thanks.
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I doubt very many people can work 50 hours a week plus do well in college. The truth is, for each hour you spend in the classroom, you should be spending 4 or 5 on your own learning the material. What is the point of taking classes repeatedly because you haven't the proper time to devote to the material? I'm sure you've heard the phrase work smarter, not harder...you're spinning your wheels, and it seems your father is not helping. It's no wonder you're stressed out of your mind! You've got your father's overblown expectations hounding you! Of course you will get sick from time to time, and need a day off here and there...I wonder if getting away from your father would help you considerably.
You are putting too much pressure on yourself. If your father behaives that way towards you, and is not supportive, or encouraging that isnt going to help. I think you should find a new place to live ...and fast! That should loosen the anxiety. You need to move out of there, and look at ways to free up your schedule.
You need to give yourself a break. You are by no means lazy if you have been working the way you described your life to be. However, do know that working long hours may not be the best. Working smart is a far better approach. Sometimes, short term sacrifices must be taken into consideration when considering about long term goals. It may be that you should focus more on your classes, to give you the leverage and qualifications for a better job next time.
It is natural that you are having anxiety issues now. This is no way to live life. Read this article here on anxiety symptoms
http://www.healthandwellnesscentral.com/...
You should be careful there. You don't want to turn your anxiety into depression.
Parents like him don't "get it".They should be telling you to
work less to avoid being overwelmed with schoolwork and
other things.You need to get more sleep.Manage your day.Foreget what he says.You can do this.Look out for #1.
YOU.
Lately I've been having panic attacks, sleeping even less, and just in general freaking out. I feel like I can't quit or go part time. I feel trapped. I'm failing my classes. Any outsider's perspectives on this situation? Thanks.
Answer:
I doubt very many people can work 50 hours a week plus do well in college. The truth is, for each hour you spend in the classroom, you should be spending 4 or 5 on your own learning the material. What is the point of taking classes repeatedly because you haven't the proper time to devote to the material? I'm sure you've heard the phrase work smarter, not harder...you're spinning your wheels, and it seems your father is not helping. It's no wonder you're stressed out of your mind! You've got your father's overblown expectations hounding you! Of course you will get sick from time to time, and need a day off here and there...I wonder if getting away from your father would help you considerably.
You are putting too much pressure on yourself. If your father behaives that way towards you, and is not supportive, or encouraging that isnt going to help. I think you should find a new place to live ...and fast! That should loosen the anxiety. You need to move out of there, and look at ways to free up your schedule.
You need to give yourself a break. You are by no means lazy if you have been working the way you described your life to be. However, do know that working long hours may not be the best. Working smart is a far better approach. Sometimes, short term sacrifices must be taken into consideration when considering about long term goals. It may be that you should focus more on your classes, to give you the leverage and qualifications for a better job next time.
It is natural that you are having anxiety issues now. This is no way to live life. Read this article here on anxiety symptoms
http://www.healthandwellnesscentral.com/...
You should be careful there. You don't want to turn your anxiety into depression.
Parents like him don't "get it".They should be telling you to
work less to avoid being overwelmed with schoolwork and
other things.You need to get more sleep.Manage your day.Foreget what he says.You can do this.Look out for #1.
YOU.
Can you GO INSANE from having PANIC ATTACK?
what can harm you from having panic attack?
Answer:
no, but the fear of the next one is scarier than the actual panic attack. the fear of losing control is behind panic attacks
people react diff i have had them so severe that i have try to kill my self over them ,dumm now but if you dont have them you dont know what it is like they have special courses to help teach you to coupe with it but everybodys diff i found my own way and it helps hope you dont have them take care
No- it feels like it at times. But there is actually science behind it. It is related to the release of adrenaline in your body and it can only affect you for short period of times usually btwn 10-30 min. As soon as you have used that up your body begins to stabalize. At that point you are often left shaken and scared, but you can't die.
There really isn't much that can harm you internally.
well after alot of panic attacks u will begin to get really paranoid and anioux all the time and ur mind will have all these crazy thoughts and that would be bad for u
A panic attack only lasts so long. But while it's happening you don't believe it will ever end. The next time you have a panic attack just keep telling yourself that it is only temporary.
temporarily yes depends on severity
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no, but the fear of the next one is scarier than the actual panic attack. the fear of losing control is behind panic attacks
people react diff i have had them so severe that i have try to kill my self over them ,dumm now but if you dont have them you dont know what it is like they have special courses to help teach you to coupe with it but everybodys diff i found my own way and it helps hope you dont have them take care
No- it feels like it at times. But there is actually science behind it. It is related to the release of adrenaline in your body and it can only affect you for short period of times usually btwn 10-30 min. As soon as you have used that up your body begins to stabalize. At that point you are often left shaken and scared, but you can't die.
There really isn't much that can harm you internally.
well after alot of panic attacks u will begin to get really paranoid and anioux all the time and ur mind will have all these crazy thoughts and that would be bad for u
A panic attack only lasts so long. But while it's happening you don't believe it will ever end. The next time you have a panic attack just keep telling yourself that it is only temporary.
temporarily yes depends on severity
Can you give me one reason to not give up on life?
I can't handle it anymore...I'm so stressed out, there's no help for me either.I just lost my job due to my depression...Now I have no insurance, I ran out of my anti-depressant medication, and I feel worse! I have no $$ to pay for a psychologist, and can't afford to get that last refill on my medicine! I live w/my abusive father...I don't have anywhere to go, no friends, I am a grown girl--22yrs. old, but have nobody.:0( I see no way out of my pain..Can you help me?
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Answer:
One reason, sure LIFE..this isa ll we get one chance to go around to live, love laugh and see sunsets and hear a great song and feel the warmth of a lover.I suffer from depression too, and know exactly how it feels to feel how you are feeling, depression is an illness that is not untreatable..you do have to work for it. Life IS worth living, make it worth living. who knows whats on the other side, all I know is there are more than one thing to live for on this side, and that is coming from me on a bad day. Nothing lasts forever, even pain ,even depression ,even life, we do all die one day, so make this one count.
To start, set urself up wuith a schedule, get up at 7 am everym oring nad look for a job until noon, then do some sort of physical activinty for 1-2 hours, then spend 2 hours doing something intellectual, read, write, etc then wathc some good FUNNY TV something to make you laugh, eat a good diet, spend time with friends and loved ones, if you don't have any join a club or some kind of community education program (they are cheap) and meet people. Structure, schedule, and accomplishing small goals will get you feeling better, then you get a job and have that to fulfill your needs, and make $$$$ as soo nas you can get a mentla health professional and gets some meds, they Do help. Also, look into www.nami.com they are a free national mental health care organizatrion that can help you...
Best of luck
Commit yourself to a hospital for help, they have to help you if you feel like hurting yourself. If you said the magic words to the police they would commit you for your own good. Sounds to me like this would be a good thing for you to do.
talk to god he will help you
he helps everyone
Just call out to God. God will never let you suffer for long, everything will turn around just please don't hurt yourself...it will be okay. pray to God. he will help you..
Look. Don't give up! Sometimes I feel depressed, because I feel like I'm not good at anything I do! But i no I'm a good person and I'm good at working with other people. Try to find something you like to do. If running will help you take out the stress than run! Get a pet if you feel lonely. Dogs are always by your side! NEVER GIVE UP! Life is to precious for that!
If you don't have a job, find one. you will make friends at work!
i thought this way last year and i would encourage u not to give up on life. i'm sure u r a really cool person and that there r people who don't want u to give up on life. if it makes a difference, i don't want u to give up on life. although i don't know u i would never want anyone to give up on life.
Dear Emily. Please go to the following link immediately. http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html... or call 1-800-784-2433 or 273-8255.
There is hope. I know that sounds cheesy, but there are people who live to help you live. Words are just words, but death is forever. You can't take it back. Please post again to let us know you're getting help!
if you're depressed I think it's not good to be by yourself cuz you'll probably get more depressed. are you sure you aren't exagerating when you say you have no friends? we all have friends, it's just that we forget them when we're down. you should call one and just tell him/her you're feeling down and sad and ask if she/he could go out with you so you could talk to her about what's going on with your life. see, truth is, I don't think w can do much for you, cuz internet does not cure depression. but be sure, there IS help for you and there IS a way out of all the pain. You know, actually there's nothing you can't overcome. life functions this way. don't know if you want to give up on life. BUT NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.
take care ok?
Keep in mind that giving up and ending your life is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem. Sweetie, I have also been in the depths of depression, and I understand how it feels like there is no way out, no way up. Please know from my experience that it will get better. Maybe not as soon as you want, but it will!! I promise. Go to a hospital that can help you. If you are serious, and you let them know that you are considering suicide, they can not turn you away. From that point they will help you get your medicines, and put you in contact with the programs that can help you get your life back, maybe even get you out from under your father's roof. I must say that if I had given up I would never have met my beautiful daughter Lily. Much love and best of wishes. ~Been there
Attention.If you were being treated for depression, you CANNOT be fired for that ailment. The employer is not allowed to fire you for a disability. If it is indeed like you say, see a lawyer if your employer will not take you back.
About the depression. You need to realize that you HAVE to have a job in order to escape from your problems. That should be priority ONE.
Emily - Please get some professional help. Call your local Family Services department and ask them to set up an appointment with a FREE counselor.
While waiting for your appointment, please know stress and depression can have many causes: mental (what you are thinking), emotional (too many blocked emotions) and physical (an inactive lifestyle). To work through your stress and depression you need to work on all levels.
MENTAL - According to Richard Carlson, author of "You Can Be Happy No Matter What," most people think happiness is conditional and outside of themselves or expect that it is a fleeting feeling based on the events in their lives or their circumstances. They don't realize that their happiness is inside of them IN THE MOMENT.
According to Carlson, most people are unhappy because most of their thinking is negative. Negative thinking IN THE MOMENT leads to a negative feeling IN THE MOMENT which leads to a negative mood. Then the negative mood leads to a negative feeling in the moment which leads to more negative thinking in the moment. It becomes a viscous circle.
The reverse is also true. Positive thinking in the moment leads to positive feelings in the moment which leads to a positive mood.
The trick is not to try to feel better or think positively, the trick is to think positive thoughts and to FEEL GOOD. When I feel down, I don't try to change what I'm thinking/feeling, I just DELIBERATELY start thinking positive thoughts about things I like..
When you start to think or feel negative, STOP THINKING ABOUT WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING and DELIBERATELY start thinking about things that make you happy. You have to make a deliberate effort. I just say things to myself like "I like the song Forever Young by Rod Stewart, I like chocolate chip cookies, I like the movie French Kiss" By changing my focus I immediately change my feelings and then my thoughts automatically go back to positive. You might want to make a "Happy" list and carry it with you for those times when negative thoughts/feelings get the best of you.
EMOTIONAL - Every day we all feel many different emotions. Emotions are just ENERGIES IN MOTION in our bodies. Emotions are meant to be FELT and RELEASED. In America, we are taught that emotions are weak and so most people ignore or downplay their emotions.
Every time you don't allow yourself or you aren't allowed to fully experience an emotion, to feel it, and to move through it, the energy of that emotion becomes stopped and blocked in your body. It remains blocked until you go back and re-experience that emotion. Then the energetic block is freed and cleared. Virtually all of our physical ailments come from energetic blocks in our bodies, energetic patterns that are connected to our emotional patterns
When emotions are blocked for a long time, your body shuts down emotionally and you get numb (depressed). You feel tired and have no interest in anything. The emotions that are blocked also tend to LEAK out (like in angry outbursts).
One good way to release blocked emotions and stress is to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Emotional Tapping. In EFT you apply gentle acupressure tapping to specific body points to release blocked emotions. EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in 15-30 minutes). You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute to complete. EFT works quickly and painlessly.
Please download the FREE EFT Instructional manual from the EFT website (www.emofree.com). Also, please watch the FREE EFT Introductory video.
PHYSICAL - If you are a person who doesn't exercise on a regular basis, your body gets "Stale" and you feel tired and lethargic. Taking a brisk 15 minute walk every day will do wonders to improve your mood. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood elevators into the bloodstream, which makes you feel GOOD.
DON'T GIVE UP...THINGS WILL GET BETTER FOR YOU!
#1 reason: You.
You are obviously desperate to have a better life. That is reason enough not to give up. Your life can only be as good as you make it. There is no easy answer. You must do all of the hard work to make it better, but it will be worth it. You won't be happy unless you make yourself happy. Give yourself reasons to be happy instead of dwelling on the negative. Do things for yourself. Get a job you are comfortable with (get ready for the hard work...) Appreciate your hard work and do things to make yourself proud. If you like animals, volunteer at an animal shelter to help save homeless pets. If you have a patch of dirt, plant some flowers and water them every day. The responsiblility and routine will help give you some stability and you will feel proud when you see them grow. Get up early in the morning and go for a walk or jog. Get free magazines from your local library and then cut out pictures that you like. Paste them on a board or keep them in a scrap book. Do this every month and then look over how your pictures change every month. This will help you reflect on who you are and what you are feeling. Set small goals and then DO THINGS TO REACH THEM. Setting goals will help you overcome the feeling of being overwhelmed by the big picture.
Coming out of a depression IS NOT EASY, but YOU are the only one who can do it. And trust me, it IS worth doing. Hang in there!
PS: A simple smile can do wonders for your day. Keep a bucketfull around and put a few in your pockets for safe-keeping. :)
The reason that you should not give up on life is because you'll let the mean, insensitive, misunderstanding, rude, money grubbers win. I have been in a similar situation and it took finding something that I am really interested in to keep my mind going and really give me another reason not to give up. I started going to school again, and that is something that is filling up my extra time. It is a very hard situation to pull through but look around, figure out what you like to do and go for it, if you want to go back to school then go for it, there is always a way to pay for college, and you don't have to really worry about that money until you have your degree. Keep your head up.
l feel your pain..is there absolutley no one you could turn to? whatever, i can sense your a good person, i hope you pull through
I'm so sorry for your pain...I just want to convey to you one thing.DON'T GIVE UP!! Feelings are NOT facts...they are the end result of our thought patterns...Thereby, if you CHANGE the way you think, you can change the way you feel...This is called, rational-emotive, behavioral therapy..(REBT). It really works, to read more on it, go here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/rebt...
*Also, remember, you are NOT ALONE! This too shall pass, Emily, pray to God, for he is there for you always..
I feel your pain hon, I was in your place two weeks ago and was hospitalized. what the people above me have said is good, there are ways to get out. If you need support please contact me (littlemissmeghan@yahoo.com) YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS STRUGGLE... YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS WORLD. Take care of yourself. People love you. I will be here for you if you need it.
Everyone has their problems in life. Its just a matter on how you solve them.
Thats what life is about. Open your eyes to a new dimension. Look past all the people and friends your missing, and the things you dont have to live in a normal society and see what life really is. Look at what your standing on and think about what is above you. It is so amazing how everything is just here. And your in it. Hopefully you believe in god and you will see it alot easier. Look at how he made everything and it all goes together so well. Its so incredible. Emily, Your life is so unbelievably precious. Dont give up. Your life is worth fighting for. And if you could take me seriously. I would be your friend. A good friend. I wouldnt judge you or think any less of you as a person. I know for a fact that you can make it, and you can make it good in life. Just try harder. All these people give great advice. And their are so many people with the same exact problem and many have it really hard. Much Love.
xox Brittany xox
don't give up hope it will get better. just have faith that god will save you. just pray every chance you get. pray to god for help he will save you. all you need is faith. I'll pray for your help to. they're are people out there who care and will do everything they can to help. all you need is to have faith.
Hey! there is always a brighter side to things and yes you can make it.Hang in there there is help.Heavenly Father I want you to lift girl in your arms and make her understand she is loved the way she is and give her the knowledge that she can find help. I want you to call your local AA place ,call the
hospital tell them what is happening if they can't help you they will direct you to someone who can. Hang on your a great person.
Emily.. DO NOT do anything "Stupid please", you are having a Spiritually war with Staten, it's all a lie!.. turn to God it's FREE!, find yourself a good base Church.. and quit hanging out with negative people.. I would rather have one good Christian friend,, than 10 friends just hanging out doing "NOTHING"... remember JESUS loves you!, you are a lost sheep right now.. talk with him just like you would any friend.. don't be embarrassed.. your Christian friend.. Ruben
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Answer:
One reason, sure LIFE..this isa ll we get one chance to go around to live, love laugh and see sunsets and hear a great song and feel the warmth of a lover.I suffer from depression too, and know exactly how it feels to feel how you are feeling, depression is an illness that is not untreatable..you do have to work for it. Life IS worth living, make it worth living. who knows whats on the other side, all I know is there are more than one thing to live for on this side, and that is coming from me on a bad day. Nothing lasts forever, even pain ,even depression ,even life, we do all die one day, so make this one count.
To start, set urself up wuith a schedule, get up at 7 am everym oring nad look for a job until noon, then do some sort of physical activinty for 1-2 hours, then spend 2 hours doing something intellectual, read, write, etc then wathc some good FUNNY TV something to make you laugh, eat a good diet, spend time with friends and loved ones, if you don't have any join a club or some kind of community education program (they are cheap) and meet people. Structure, schedule, and accomplishing small goals will get you feeling better, then you get a job and have that to fulfill your needs, and make $$$$ as soo nas you can get a mentla health professional and gets some meds, they Do help. Also, look into www.nami.com they are a free national mental health care organizatrion that can help you...
Best of luck
Commit yourself to a hospital for help, they have to help you if you feel like hurting yourself. If you said the magic words to the police they would commit you for your own good. Sounds to me like this would be a good thing for you to do.
talk to god he will help you
he helps everyone
Just call out to God. God will never let you suffer for long, everything will turn around just please don't hurt yourself...it will be okay. pray to God. he will help you..
Look. Don't give up! Sometimes I feel depressed, because I feel like I'm not good at anything I do! But i no I'm a good person and I'm good at working with other people. Try to find something you like to do. If running will help you take out the stress than run! Get a pet if you feel lonely. Dogs are always by your side! NEVER GIVE UP! Life is to precious for that!
If you don't have a job, find one. you will make friends at work!
i thought this way last year and i would encourage u not to give up on life. i'm sure u r a really cool person and that there r people who don't want u to give up on life. if it makes a difference, i don't want u to give up on life. although i don't know u i would never want anyone to give up on life.
Dear Emily. Please go to the following link immediately. http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html... or call 1-800-784-2433 or 273-8255.
There is hope. I know that sounds cheesy, but there are people who live to help you live. Words are just words, but death is forever. You can't take it back. Please post again to let us know you're getting help!
if you're depressed I think it's not good to be by yourself cuz you'll probably get more depressed. are you sure you aren't exagerating when you say you have no friends? we all have friends, it's just that we forget them when we're down. you should call one and just tell him/her you're feeling down and sad and ask if she/he could go out with you so you could talk to her about what's going on with your life. see, truth is, I don't think w can do much for you, cuz internet does not cure depression. but be sure, there IS help for you and there IS a way out of all the pain. You know, actually there's nothing you can't overcome. life functions this way. don't know if you want to give up on life. BUT NEVER GIVE UP ON YOURSELF.
take care ok?
Keep in mind that giving up and ending your life is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORARY problem. Sweetie, I have also been in the depths of depression, and I understand how it feels like there is no way out, no way up. Please know from my experience that it will get better. Maybe not as soon as you want, but it will!! I promise. Go to a hospital that can help you. If you are serious, and you let them know that you are considering suicide, they can not turn you away. From that point they will help you get your medicines, and put you in contact with the programs that can help you get your life back, maybe even get you out from under your father's roof. I must say that if I had given up I would never have met my beautiful daughter Lily. Much love and best of wishes. ~Been there
Attention.If you were being treated for depression, you CANNOT be fired for that ailment. The employer is not allowed to fire you for a disability. If it is indeed like you say, see a lawyer if your employer will not take you back.
About the depression. You need to realize that you HAVE to have a job in order to escape from your problems. That should be priority ONE.
Emily - Please get some professional help. Call your local Family Services department and ask them to set up an appointment with a FREE counselor.
While waiting for your appointment, please know stress and depression can have many causes: mental (what you are thinking), emotional (too many blocked emotions) and physical (an inactive lifestyle). To work through your stress and depression you need to work on all levels.
MENTAL - According to Richard Carlson, author of "You Can Be Happy No Matter What," most people think happiness is conditional and outside of themselves or expect that it is a fleeting feeling based on the events in their lives or their circumstances. They don't realize that their happiness is inside of them IN THE MOMENT.
According to Carlson, most people are unhappy because most of their thinking is negative. Negative thinking IN THE MOMENT leads to a negative feeling IN THE MOMENT which leads to a negative mood. Then the negative mood leads to a negative feeling in the moment which leads to more negative thinking in the moment. It becomes a viscous circle.
The reverse is also true. Positive thinking in the moment leads to positive feelings in the moment which leads to a positive mood.
The trick is not to try to feel better or think positively, the trick is to think positive thoughts and to FEEL GOOD. When I feel down, I don't try to change what I'm thinking/feeling, I just DELIBERATELY start thinking positive thoughts about things I like..
When you start to think or feel negative, STOP THINKING ABOUT WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING and DELIBERATELY start thinking about things that make you happy. You have to make a deliberate effort. I just say things to myself like "I like the song Forever Young by Rod Stewart, I like chocolate chip cookies, I like the movie French Kiss" By changing my focus I immediately change my feelings and then my thoughts automatically go back to positive. You might want to make a "Happy" list and carry it with you for those times when negative thoughts/feelings get the best of you.
EMOTIONAL - Every day we all feel many different emotions. Emotions are just ENERGIES IN MOTION in our bodies. Emotions are meant to be FELT and RELEASED. In America, we are taught that emotions are weak and so most people ignore or downplay their emotions.
Every time you don't allow yourself or you aren't allowed to fully experience an emotion, to feel it, and to move through it, the energy of that emotion becomes stopped and blocked in your body. It remains blocked until you go back and re-experience that emotion. Then the energetic block is freed and cleared. Virtually all of our physical ailments come from energetic blocks in our bodies, energetic patterns that are connected to our emotional patterns
When emotions are blocked for a long time, your body shuts down emotionally and you get numb (depressed). You feel tired and have no interest in anything. The emotions that are blocked also tend to LEAK out (like in angry outbursts).
One good way to release blocked emotions and stress is to use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Emotional Tapping. In EFT you apply gentle acupressure tapping to specific body points to release blocked emotions. EFT is easy to learn (you can learn the basics in 15-30 minutes). You can use EFT anytime, anywhere for any emotional or physical issue. One basic round of EFT takes about one minute to complete. EFT works quickly and painlessly.
Please download the FREE EFT Instructional manual from the EFT website (www.emofree.com). Also, please watch the FREE EFT Introductory video.
PHYSICAL - If you are a person who doesn't exercise on a regular basis, your body gets "Stale" and you feel tired and lethargic. Taking a brisk 15 minute walk every day will do wonders to improve your mood. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood elevators into the bloodstream, which makes you feel GOOD.
DON'T GIVE UP...THINGS WILL GET BETTER FOR YOU!
#1 reason: You.
You are obviously desperate to have a better life. That is reason enough not to give up. Your life can only be as good as you make it. There is no easy answer. You must do all of the hard work to make it better, but it will be worth it. You won't be happy unless you make yourself happy. Give yourself reasons to be happy instead of dwelling on the negative. Do things for yourself. Get a job you are comfortable with (get ready for the hard work...) Appreciate your hard work and do things to make yourself proud. If you like animals, volunteer at an animal shelter to help save homeless pets. If you have a patch of dirt, plant some flowers and water them every day. The responsiblility and routine will help give you some stability and you will feel proud when you see them grow. Get up early in the morning and go for a walk or jog. Get free magazines from your local library and then cut out pictures that you like. Paste them on a board or keep them in a scrap book. Do this every month and then look over how your pictures change every month. This will help you reflect on who you are and what you are feeling. Set small goals and then DO THINGS TO REACH THEM. Setting goals will help you overcome the feeling of being overwhelmed by the big picture.
Coming out of a depression IS NOT EASY, but YOU are the only one who can do it. And trust me, it IS worth doing. Hang in there!
PS: A simple smile can do wonders for your day. Keep a bucketfull around and put a few in your pockets for safe-keeping. :)
The reason that you should not give up on life is because you'll let the mean, insensitive, misunderstanding, rude, money grubbers win. I have been in a similar situation and it took finding something that I am really interested in to keep my mind going and really give me another reason not to give up. I started going to school again, and that is something that is filling up my extra time. It is a very hard situation to pull through but look around, figure out what you like to do and go for it, if you want to go back to school then go for it, there is always a way to pay for college, and you don't have to really worry about that money until you have your degree. Keep your head up.
l feel your pain..is there absolutley no one you could turn to? whatever, i can sense your a good person, i hope you pull through
I'm so sorry for your pain...I just want to convey to you one thing.DON'T GIVE UP!! Feelings are NOT facts...they are the end result of our thought patterns...Thereby, if you CHANGE the way you think, you can change the way you feel...This is called, rational-emotive, behavioral therapy..(REBT). It really works, to read more on it, go here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/rebt...
*Also, remember, you are NOT ALONE! This too shall pass, Emily, pray to God, for he is there for you always..
I feel your pain hon, I was in your place two weeks ago and was hospitalized. what the people above me have said is good, there are ways to get out. If you need support please contact me (littlemissmeghan@yahoo.com) YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS STRUGGLE... YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS WORLD. Take care of yourself. People love you. I will be here for you if you need it.
Everyone has their problems in life. Its just a matter on how you solve them.
Thats what life is about. Open your eyes to a new dimension. Look past all the people and friends your missing, and the things you dont have to live in a normal society and see what life really is. Look at what your standing on and think about what is above you. It is so amazing how everything is just here. And your in it. Hopefully you believe in god and you will see it alot easier. Look at how he made everything and it all goes together so well. Its so incredible. Emily, Your life is so unbelievably precious. Dont give up. Your life is worth fighting for. And if you could take me seriously. I would be your friend. A good friend. I wouldnt judge you or think any less of you as a person. I know for a fact that you can make it, and you can make it good in life. Just try harder. All these people give great advice. And their are so many people with the same exact problem and many have it really hard. Much Love.
xox Brittany xox
don't give up hope it will get better. just have faith that god will save you. just pray every chance you get. pray to god for help he will save you. all you need is faith. I'll pray for your help to. they're are people out there who care and will do everything they can to help. all you need is to have faith.
Hey! there is always a brighter side to things and yes you can make it.Hang in there there is help.Heavenly Father I want you to lift girl in your arms and make her understand she is loved the way she is and give her the knowledge that she can find help. I want you to call your local AA place ,call the
hospital tell them what is happening if they can't help you they will direct you to someone who can. Hang on your a great person.
Emily.. DO NOT do anything "Stupid please", you are having a Spiritually war with Staten, it's all a lie!.. turn to God it's FREE!, find yourself a good base Church.. and quit hanging out with negative people.. I would rather have one good Christian friend,, than 10 friends just hanging out doing "NOTHING"... remember JESUS loves you!, you are a lost sheep right now.. talk with him just like you would any friend.. don't be embarrassed.. your Christian friend.. Ruben
Can you get Wellbutrin XL prescribed for depression in the UK?
Answer:
It has no UK license for depression and is only available as the smoking cessation product Zyban, which is 150 mgs.
Welbutrin is called Zyban in the UK...ask your GP.
yes.
Can you get sick from being down for a very long time?
My friend feels very depressed, and she cries every night over a love that'd never come true,etc.
And all she can think about is that (very sensitive, i know). She tries to hide it from me, but i know she's broken from the inside! She writes all these heart breaking poems and its just so sad to see her that way.
But she's often sick, is this from that depression? So can you get ill from being depressed/having a heartache?
Answer:
sure its possible have you seen the commercials for cymbalta? folks get physically sick when they are mentally sick your friend needs help you can take her to a doctor or the ER or if shes not willing and you think she might hurt herself then call 911 and they can take her to the hopsital. I have seen folks with depression that's from traumatic events in their lives get better very quickly with medication and therapy
yeah i got sick like that but most of the time everybody's body acts differently plz get her helped
Yes, stress weakens the immune system. She should destress by taking walks, finding enjoyable things, and relying on friends and family for support. Taking extra vitamins helps too.
Her immune system does get very week. She needs a supplement to put her hormones in balance and to give her system a boost.
Depression can hurt one (and his/her loved ones) both mentally and physically. Your friend needs to get therapy--and possibly medication--ASAP! There are free and sliding-scale mental health clinics in virtually all cities. If you don't know where one is--call your local emergency room or police department, and ask for the phone number of the clinic in your area.
The poetry is good therapy--let your friend write !
Remember that depression IS an illness in itself. Your friend needs to at least get to his/her medical doctor for help.
It has just be proved that walking outdoors in nature helps those with depression. Get walking with your friend. (Mall walking, etc. does not help as much).
if it's in the head and in the heart, yes you can become very sick. the psychology of any illness begins with those to very major parts of the body.
i have made myself sick with very similar issues over the years. i think the individual above said it best when they stated that it weakens your immune system. it really does. the stress and worry of unfulfilled dreams and emotions is very difficult for some people to handle.
to some it may seem crazy and unbelieveable, but you can literally worry yourself to death.
And all she can think about is that (very sensitive, i know). She tries to hide it from me, but i know she's broken from the inside! She writes all these heart breaking poems and its just so sad to see her that way.
But she's often sick, is this from that depression? So can you get ill from being depressed/having a heartache?
Answer:
sure its possible have you seen the commercials for cymbalta? folks get physically sick when they are mentally sick your friend needs help you can take her to a doctor or the ER or if shes not willing and you think she might hurt herself then call 911 and they can take her to the hopsital. I have seen folks with depression that's from traumatic events in their lives get better very quickly with medication and therapy
yeah i got sick like that but most of the time everybody's body acts differently plz get her helped
Yes, stress weakens the immune system. She should destress by taking walks, finding enjoyable things, and relying on friends and family for support. Taking extra vitamins helps too.
Her immune system does get very week. She needs a supplement to put her hormones in balance and to give her system a boost.
Depression can hurt one (and his/her loved ones) both mentally and physically. Your friend needs to get therapy--and possibly medication--ASAP! There are free and sliding-scale mental health clinics in virtually all cities. If you don't know where one is--call your local emergency room or police department, and ask for the phone number of the clinic in your area.
The poetry is good therapy--let your friend write !
Remember that depression IS an illness in itself. Your friend needs to at least get to his/her medical doctor for help.
It has just be proved that walking outdoors in nature helps those with depression. Get walking with your friend. (Mall walking, etc. does not help as much).
if it's in the head and in the heart, yes you can become very sick. the psychology of any illness begins with those to very major parts of the body.
i have made myself sick with very similar issues over the years. i think the individual above said it best when they stated that it weakens your immune system. it really does. the stress and worry of unfulfilled dreams and emotions is very difficult for some people to handle.
to some it may seem crazy and unbelieveable, but you can literally worry yourself to death.
Can you get post partum depression from a miscarrige?
about a month ago i lost what would have been my second child after my husband and i had been trying for 2 years... and now i cant seem to get out of a funk
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Post partum is caused by the hormones in your body fluxuating after pregnancy, so i do believe you can get it after a miscarriage. Also, the fact that a miscarriage occured after trying for so long could very likely cause some depression. I have been through that myself. If your symptoms get worse or you cannot get out of your "funk" for too much longer, I would recommend seeking the opinion of a doctor. Hope this helps.
well gosh, I would think so! you may need to see a therapist to resolve some of the issues that are keeping you down.
not even necessarily post partum depression but it could just be putting you into a plain old depression..that is a really hard thing to go through so that could be expected
I'm not sure whether it would be considered post-partum depression (it very well might), but it's completely understandable that you are experiencing depression, post-partum or not! You have experienced a huge loss and you are grieving. You should find yourself a counselor to help you through this.
I am so sorry to hear about your recent loss. I'm not sure about the postpartum, but I would imagine it could easily be depression after such traumatic event.
I too had a miscarriage and am happy to say that 6-months later I did conceive and now my son is almost a year old.
My doctor and I spoke about the miscarriage and he told me that at least 20% of all pregnancies end this way. So you are not alone and the chance of a recurrence is small.
I would just recommend taking it one day at a time, it is often hard to talk to family because they just don't fully understand how much you are hurting. But in my experience the only thing that helps is time..If you really need to talk to someone who has been there, search online for some miscarriage support groups in your area or meet with a therapist. Take care.
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Post partum is caused by the hormones in your body fluxuating after pregnancy, so i do believe you can get it after a miscarriage. Also, the fact that a miscarriage occured after trying for so long could very likely cause some depression. I have been through that myself. If your symptoms get worse or you cannot get out of your "funk" for too much longer, I would recommend seeking the opinion of a doctor. Hope this helps.
well gosh, I would think so! you may need to see a therapist to resolve some of the issues that are keeping you down.
not even necessarily post partum depression but it could just be putting you into a plain old depression..that is a really hard thing to go through so that could be expected
I'm not sure whether it would be considered post-partum depression (it very well might), but it's completely understandable that you are experiencing depression, post-partum or not! You have experienced a huge loss and you are grieving. You should find yourself a counselor to help you through this.
I am so sorry to hear about your recent loss. I'm not sure about the postpartum, but I would imagine it could easily be depression after such traumatic event.
I too had a miscarriage and am happy to say that 6-months later I did conceive and now my son is almost a year old.
My doctor and I spoke about the miscarriage and he told me that at least 20% of all pregnancies end this way. So you are not alone and the chance of a recurrence is small.
I would just recommend taking it one day at a time, it is often hard to talk to family because they just don't fully understand how much you are hurting. But in my experience the only thing that helps is time..If you really need to talk to someone who has been there, search online for some miscarriage support groups in your area or meet with a therapist. Take care.
Can you get in trouble for cutting/ self injury?
If i tell my councilor will i go to jail for cutting myself? i want to get help for this but i dont want to be in trouble and any time i bring it up with my doctor (along with my depression) she makes me feel like im going to be in touble for doing it and doesnt help me. On a side note i am getting help via seeing a phychiatrist but they wont listen to me because every time they ask if im depressed i say yes and they say can i prove it and i just want to show my scars and let it be delt with but i cant... help?
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Yes you sure can if and only IF they see you doing it buddy! I have 22 scars and spent time in BP2 which is the psych ward here and I am currently on medicare and disability so I know all about this believe me buddy and I got my disability on the first shot from cutting so deep and so much!
You can only get in trouble if you tell your pdoc that you are thinking of it right at the time and you already have scars on you bud! You just have to cut like two weeks before you go in and then they will ask you? Do you feel like cutting now, and say NO! They will say; Well when did you cut last? You say about two weeks ago and then you will not get locked up but I shouldnt be saying this, but oh well its the truth and you have to cut around the pdocs in order to stay out in public and that is sad really to hide it and have to chose a certain time to relieve your pain, but such is life and life is very tough and the MIND is the most powerful weapon of all, and when left alone it can bring out your inner demons and really take over your actions and GOD forgive us for we know you can not be everywhere at once, AMEN! Thanks I really enjoyed this, MIKEY/PUGS/PA
It depends where you cut. say your finger lightly no, your finger off yes. same goes with your head, off is very very bad.
Good grief! of course you won't go to jail for cutting yourself. Don't listen to that nonsense. This kind of behaviour has a name SIB, self injurious behavior. And it has underlying reasons that have to be addressed in order for you to get help. What you need is help from someone other then the useless adult that is suppose to be helping you now. You sound young, tell someone at school and then the proper community resources will be used to get you help. They should put you in contact with a therapist. Psychiatrist really only give out meds, they hardly help you work out issues.
Honestly, I can't guarantee you would be able to tell a school (I'm assuming it's a school one, anyways) counselor. I don't know where you live, but in some places, that might not go over well. Most likely nothing as serious as jail time. You might be better off telling a trusted friend or something, but that's really up to you.
Also, if your psychiatrist doesn't listen to you, you might want to get a new one.
There are several online communities for self-injurers, and they can be very helpful.
most people regard self injury as a disease. don't worry about getting in trouble -- focus more on getting help. start with your parents if you feel comfortable. make sure they realize you are wanting their support. most people think those who self injure are weird but i think everyone copes differently and that's how you choose to do it. some people smoke -- isn't that injuring their lungs?? right so i understand your need for what you are doing and although i myself have never done it i know if i did i would want everyone just to be supportive and not reprimand me. so make the point that you know that they don't understand why you do what you do but you need them to be supportive of you at the same time. not supportive of you cutting but supportive in general to help eliminate your desire to cut. try to isolate the feelings that give you that desire and go to people you love and trust when you have the desire. and although i'm a total stranger.. i am on messenger alot and you could always talk to me if i'm around.
i think what you are going through is very serious and can be very dangerous, but i understand you. please get over your fear of getting in trouble and focus on seeking out the help you need from your family and doctors.
Here in Cali, they can do a mandatory three day lockup in a mental institution for cutting if they feel you are going to do it more.
You absolutely will not go to jail for cutting yourself. Depending how bad the cuts are, you could be held in a hospital for a relatively short time (it depends where you live, but it's usually somewhere between 24-72 hours) if the doctors determine that you're an immediate danger to yourself. That would usually only happen if you're brought into the hospital with self-inflicted injuries that are severe enough to require medial attention and you express intent to hurt yourself again in the very near future. Usually even just needing a couple stitches wouldn't do it - this is things like someone hurts themself badly enough to need blood transfusions, surgery, or possibly just really a lot of stitches, and tells the doctor that they plan to serious injure or kill themself as soon as they're released, or they try to hurt themself while they're in the hospital, or that kind of thing. They can also hospitalize you if tell a doctor (or other health care professional) that you're planning to kill yourself, and you have a detailed enough plan that it seems likely that you're going to do it, but most places don't have the resources to hospitalize people for that even when they're allowed to.
If you tell your doctor or counselor that you've cut yourself in the past and even that you plan to do it again, but it's superficial enough cuts not to require professional medical attention, they wouldn't be allowed to lock you up for that even they wanted to. If you're still a minor, then your parents could have you admitted to a residental treatment program if necessary, but the vast majority of cutters are treated on an outpatient basis, and it really doesn't sound like there would be any reason that your doctors or counselor would recommend residental treatment. Mostly doctors and counselors would recommmend residential treatment for people who are a danger to themself, for some kids who are totally out of control and are refusing to cooperate with treatment and have been trying outpatient treatment for a long time without making any progress, or for people with a major mental illness (schizophrenia, some times of bipolar disorder, etc.) who are having trouble getting their illness under control with medication. From what you said, it sounds like you want to get help, you're not causing very severe or life-treatening injuries to yourself, and you're overall a reasonably "normal" cutter, so I very much doubt that residental treatment would even be discussed unless there's a lot more going on that you've said.
Legal matters aside, no one should be angry with you for cutting, especially at the point where you know that it's not a great thing to be doing and are asking for help to recover from it. I can't promise that everyone is going to react the way they should - parents are unpredictable, and not all doctors are as competent as they should be - but if anyone does get angry about it, it's because they don't know how to handle it, not because you deserve to get in trouble, and it'll blow over eventually and you'll be able to get real help. It's not a "bad" thing like lying or stealing are bad, it's only bad like having the flu is bad. That is, it's not your fault. It's a symptom of an illness (probably depression), and it's not something to get in trouble for any more than coughing or sneezing are. I do want to make clear that I don't mean to imply that cutting is a good thing (or even a neutral thing) - it is definitely something to try to avoid doing, it's just not something to feel guilty about or to get in trouble for.
It sucks that your doctor won't listen to you about it. She really should, but even though doctors learn a little bit about self-injury in medical school, they don't always understand it, and can still hold a lot of the common prejudices and misconceptions about it. I'm not sure exactly what you told your doctor or why you think you'll be in trouble, but if you were trying to bring it up without really saying anything (like kind of letting her see your scars and hoping she'll start the conversation, or that kind of thing), then most likely she'd notice but not say anything about it because she wouldn't know that you want to talk about it and wouldn't want to make you uncomfortable (especially given that you're already seeing a psychiatrist).
The psychiatrist would probably be willing to listen if you told him/or about the cutting, but if they're asking you to prove you're depressed they probably wouldn't handle cutting very well (unless they already know or suspect you cut and are trying to get you to talk about it by asking you to 'prove' you're depressed, although if they are then they probably don't know a heck of a lot about SI because many cutters would then feel that they have to cut, and have to keep cutting, in order to prove they're depressed and validate their feelings to the outside world, which is obviously a bad thing, and probably not at all relevent to anything you wanted to know).
A counselor (or psychologist, therapist, etc.) would generally be a better person than a doctor or psychiatrist to talk to about it. Of course there are plenty of medical doctors who would be very sympathetic and helpful and plenty of counselors who aren't very good at dealing with self injury, but in general counselors are a lot more likely than doctors to really pay attention to you and not seem impatient or in a hurry to just find the right treatment and move on. Psychiatrists are obviously going to (on average) be better with mental health issues than other doctors are, but they're still medical doctors. Medical doctors are usually going to be more interested in finding the right treatment (usually medication) as quickly as possible and moving on, whereas counselors and therapists are there to listen to you and talk with you for a longer time with a less definite goal (as in, they're trying to go through a checklist of specific symptoms). Most doctors schedule 15 minutes per patient whereas counselors or therapists usually schedule a full hour per patient unless there's a reason that it's better for the patient if it's shorter (usually half an hour).
So the point is that telling your counselor is a really good thing to do, and you don't need to be afraid of getting in trouble.
you wont get in trouble. They cant help you unless you tell them what is happening. if you leave it you will just make yourself worse and you will end up in hospital, at which point everyone will find out anyway. it may be tough to talk about it but remember you will feel a lot better in the end.
you might get sent to a mental institution/ward in the hospital depending on your situation
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Yes you sure can if and only IF they see you doing it buddy! I have 22 scars and spent time in BP2 which is the psych ward here and I am currently on medicare and disability so I know all about this believe me buddy and I got my disability on the first shot from cutting so deep and so much!
You can only get in trouble if you tell your pdoc that you are thinking of it right at the time and you already have scars on you bud! You just have to cut like two weeks before you go in and then they will ask you? Do you feel like cutting now, and say NO! They will say; Well when did you cut last? You say about two weeks ago and then you will not get locked up but I shouldnt be saying this, but oh well its the truth and you have to cut around the pdocs in order to stay out in public and that is sad really to hide it and have to chose a certain time to relieve your pain, but such is life and life is very tough and the MIND is the most powerful weapon of all, and when left alone it can bring out your inner demons and really take over your actions and GOD forgive us for we know you can not be everywhere at once, AMEN! Thanks I really enjoyed this, MIKEY/PUGS/PA
It depends where you cut. say your finger lightly no, your finger off yes. same goes with your head, off is very very bad.
Good grief! of course you won't go to jail for cutting yourself. Don't listen to that nonsense. This kind of behaviour has a name SIB, self injurious behavior. And it has underlying reasons that have to be addressed in order for you to get help. What you need is help from someone other then the useless adult that is suppose to be helping you now. You sound young, tell someone at school and then the proper community resources will be used to get you help. They should put you in contact with a therapist. Psychiatrist really only give out meds, they hardly help you work out issues.
Honestly, I can't guarantee you would be able to tell a school (I'm assuming it's a school one, anyways) counselor. I don't know where you live, but in some places, that might not go over well. Most likely nothing as serious as jail time. You might be better off telling a trusted friend or something, but that's really up to you.
Also, if your psychiatrist doesn't listen to you, you might want to get a new one.
There are several online communities for self-injurers, and they can be very helpful.
most people regard self injury as a disease. don't worry about getting in trouble -- focus more on getting help. start with your parents if you feel comfortable. make sure they realize you are wanting their support. most people think those who self injure are weird but i think everyone copes differently and that's how you choose to do it. some people smoke -- isn't that injuring their lungs?? right so i understand your need for what you are doing and although i myself have never done it i know if i did i would want everyone just to be supportive and not reprimand me. so make the point that you know that they don't understand why you do what you do but you need them to be supportive of you at the same time. not supportive of you cutting but supportive in general to help eliminate your desire to cut. try to isolate the feelings that give you that desire and go to people you love and trust when you have the desire. and although i'm a total stranger.. i am on messenger alot and you could always talk to me if i'm around.
i think what you are going through is very serious and can be very dangerous, but i understand you. please get over your fear of getting in trouble and focus on seeking out the help you need from your family and doctors.
Here in Cali, they can do a mandatory three day lockup in a mental institution for cutting if they feel you are going to do it more.
You absolutely will not go to jail for cutting yourself. Depending how bad the cuts are, you could be held in a hospital for a relatively short time (it depends where you live, but it's usually somewhere between 24-72 hours) if the doctors determine that you're an immediate danger to yourself. That would usually only happen if you're brought into the hospital with self-inflicted injuries that are severe enough to require medial attention and you express intent to hurt yourself again in the very near future. Usually even just needing a couple stitches wouldn't do it - this is things like someone hurts themself badly enough to need blood transfusions, surgery, or possibly just really a lot of stitches, and tells the doctor that they plan to serious injure or kill themself as soon as they're released, or they try to hurt themself while they're in the hospital, or that kind of thing. They can also hospitalize you if tell a doctor (or other health care professional) that you're planning to kill yourself, and you have a detailed enough plan that it seems likely that you're going to do it, but most places don't have the resources to hospitalize people for that even when they're allowed to.
If you tell your doctor or counselor that you've cut yourself in the past and even that you plan to do it again, but it's superficial enough cuts not to require professional medical attention, they wouldn't be allowed to lock you up for that even they wanted to. If you're still a minor, then your parents could have you admitted to a residental treatment program if necessary, but the vast majority of cutters are treated on an outpatient basis, and it really doesn't sound like there would be any reason that your doctors or counselor would recommend residental treatment. Mostly doctors and counselors would recommmend residential treatment for people who are a danger to themself, for some kids who are totally out of control and are refusing to cooperate with treatment and have been trying outpatient treatment for a long time without making any progress, or for people with a major mental illness (schizophrenia, some times of bipolar disorder, etc.) who are having trouble getting their illness under control with medication. From what you said, it sounds like you want to get help, you're not causing very severe or life-treatening injuries to yourself, and you're overall a reasonably "normal" cutter, so I very much doubt that residental treatment would even be discussed unless there's a lot more going on that you've said.
Legal matters aside, no one should be angry with you for cutting, especially at the point where you know that it's not a great thing to be doing and are asking for help to recover from it. I can't promise that everyone is going to react the way they should - parents are unpredictable, and not all doctors are as competent as they should be - but if anyone does get angry about it, it's because they don't know how to handle it, not because you deserve to get in trouble, and it'll blow over eventually and you'll be able to get real help. It's not a "bad" thing like lying or stealing are bad, it's only bad like having the flu is bad. That is, it's not your fault. It's a symptom of an illness (probably depression), and it's not something to get in trouble for any more than coughing or sneezing are. I do want to make clear that I don't mean to imply that cutting is a good thing (or even a neutral thing) - it is definitely something to try to avoid doing, it's just not something to feel guilty about or to get in trouble for.
It sucks that your doctor won't listen to you about it. She really should, but even though doctors learn a little bit about self-injury in medical school, they don't always understand it, and can still hold a lot of the common prejudices and misconceptions about it. I'm not sure exactly what you told your doctor or why you think you'll be in trouble, but if you were trying to bring it up without really saying anything (like kind of letting her see your scars and hoping she'll start the conversation, or that kind of thing), then most likely she'd notice but not say anything about it because she wouldn't know that you want to talk about it and wouldn't want to make you uncomfortable (especially given that you're already seeing a psychiatrist).
The psychiatrist would probably be willing to listen if you told him/or about the cutting, but if they're asking you to prove you're depressed they probably wouldn't handle cutting very well (unless they already know or suspect you cut and are trying to get you to talk about it by asking you to 'prove' you're depressed, although if they are then they probably don't know a heck of a lot about SI because many cutters would then feel that they have to cut, and have to keep cutting, in order to prove they're depressed and validate their feelings to the outside world, which is obviously a bad thing, and probably not at all relevent to anything you wanted to know).
A counselor (or psychologist, therapist, etc.) would generally be a better person than a doctor or psychiatrist to talk to about it. Of course there are plenty of medical doctors who would be very sympathetic and helpful and plenty of counselors who aren't very good at dealing with self injury, but in general counselors are a lot more likely than doctors to really pay attention to you and not seem impatient or in a hurry to just find the right treatment and move on. Psychiatrists are obviously going to (on average) be better with mental health issues than other doctors are, but they're still medical doctors. Medical doctors are usually going to be more interested in finding the right treatment (usually medication) as quickly as possible and moving on, whereas counselors and therapists are there to listen to you and talk with you for a longer time with a less definite goal (as in, they're trying to go through a checklist of specific symptoms). Most doctors schedule 15 minutes per patient whereas counselors or therapists usually schedule a full hour per patient unless there's a reason that it's better for the patient if it's shorter (usually half an hour).
So the point is that telling your counselor is a really good thing to do, and you don't need to be afraid of getting in trouble.
you wont get in trouble. They cant help you unless you tell them what is happening. if you leave it you will just make yourself worse and you will end up in hospital, at which point everyone will find out anyway. it may be tough to talk about it but remember you will feel a lot better in the end.
you might get sent to a mental institution/ward in the hospital depending on your situation
Can you ever overcome being shy?
I don't want to change my personalty as such, but i'd love to have more confidence in myself and not get nervous
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I'm really shy aswell, but over the years my shyness has kind of gone down. 1st of all you can't care about what people think of you. If you do, you're scared to reveal your possibly lovely personality, but don't be. Try to take initiative. Talk to random people wherever you go. Talk to people who don't know you, so they'll assume you're never shy so you'll be less embarassed to talk to them, and you can practise gaining confidence on them.
I can't actually figure out how I started being more confident, but I am still shy, but i'm working on it lol. I'm really much better. I'm sure you must have a few friends you are comfortable with and not shy with, why don't you talk to other people with them by your side until you gain a little more confidence?
Take an active part in talking to people. Don't just be the answerer. Now I find myself joining into random people's conversations sometimes. Basically don't think, do. I really hope this helped.
Practice! Get involved in every activity that you can... It will develop your confidence and make you less shy.
...I havent figured out how...sorry, try saying something funny, just one time thats all you need and they're hooked.Can I have ten points please?
take a course in public speaking,i did. and it worked
The best way to change things about your personality is to act like you are whatever. Act like you are confident and outgoing. It will feel weird at first, but it turns into a habit and then you have changed!
You can do it, it just takes courage.
Better living through alcohol helped me. I began going to clubs and drinking when I was 17. Then I would talk to people. After awhile, I realized people were not as bad as I thought they were and I was able to talk to people without the added benefit of alcohol.
No
Your not alone, a lot of people go threw this.Find people that like to do the same things as you do.
Being around more people, helps.
What i did for this was to find something that i enjoyed so much that i had to share it with others, and that gave me practice in talking with others.
I sure hope this helps.
I suffer from a lack of confidence and shyness, though many people who 'think' they know/knew me would never have known. I think slowly as we become older we do deal with such issues in a better way. You shouldn't change your personality - the core you - that which makes you Special. I'm sure there are different reasons for what you and others (and myself) feel. Even without the confidence, you should remind yourself that you have every right to exist. Providing your heart is more than half good, you should know this:
"Why feel shy when our lives are short? Why feel small when death awaits? Why wait to die before you find true strength? Why be dead when you are alive?"
Try to talk to yourself in front of a mirror several times a day ,a
or ask ''someone '' to make you shy on purpose and i think it will help you to overcome this problem
although you cant tell, i am very shy. i constantly criticize myself, but you know how i got over it? i got new friends (mostly because my old ones kept on putting me down) but they helped me become more confident. they bring out the silliest in me, and it makes me seem confident. i still find it very hard to talk (like give speeches) in front of people, but im working on it =]
Actually, as not many people have known, the shyness comes from your anxiety within. In other words, as long as you're anxious or stressful sometimes or all the time, you're shy and lack of confidence and easy to be nervous, because you couldn't relax and to be yourself as well. So the key here is ANXIETY inside. period! So you'd need to lessen your anxiety a little each day, bits by bits. Don't need to hurry. Try to slow down on your pace of living and to feel the "minute feelings" of the anxiety within and to be with it by yourself. Try it. You'd feel much better when your mind has focused solely on it -- everything else later. As you have lived with the anxiety, it'd be lessened as a result. And you'd become more confidence and less pay attention to other people's criticisms on you. And, then, you'd be less shy.
yes u can overcome it i used to be kinda shy, but when i started working i made it my daily goal to start a conversation with at least one person, and it worked i meet a lot of ppl and made lots of friends. i used to get so nervous thought i remember i would even shake a bit lol.
I used to be very shy, but I'm slowly overcoming my shyness.
Here are a few tips:
-Try to feel calm around ppl
-Pretend like you already know them( it helps you feel more familiar w them and once you feel familiar you won't have such a problm talking to them)
-Try to talk to ppl you don't know (try to talk to schoolmates that you've never talked before) Say anything or ask anything..
The more you practice to talk to ppl you don't know well, the better you get at it. And the more comfortable you'll get.
I know it's not always easy but the more you practice the easier it gets!!
How old are you?
Age is a big factor, right up until I was about 19 I was horrendous in public situtations, then suddenly i just changed.
Honestly can you think of any really shy over 30 year olds, I cant think of many.
Yeah I think you can get over it but not fully. You have to use your willpower and force yourself into uncomfortable social situations and try to handle things. I used to be real shy but now I am not so much.
I am a male and have had this problem all my life. Only now am I getting advice from a cognitive behavioural therapist. It sounds as though you suffer from socia phobia just like I do. Hey your not alone. See your doctor and you will be put in touch with somone who can help you, don't let it carry on I made that mistake.
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I'm really shy aswell, but over the years my shyness has kind of gone down. 1st of all you can't care about what people think of you. If you do, you're scared to reveal your possibly lovely personality, but don't be. Try to take initiative. Talk to random people wherever you go. Talk to people who don't know you, so they'll assume you're never shy so you'll be less embarassed to talk to them, and you can practise gaining confidence on them.
I can't actually figure out how I started being more confident, but I am still shy, but i'm working on it lol. I'm really much better. I'm sure you must have a few friends you are comfortable with and not shy with, why don't you talk to other people with them by your side until you gain a little more confidence?
Take an active part in talking to people. Don't just be the answerer. Now I find myself joining into random people's conversations sometimes. Basically don't think, do. I really hope this helped.
Practice! Get involved in every activity that you can... It will develop your confidence and make you less shy.
...I havent figured out how...sorry, try saying something funny, just one time thats all you need and they're hooked.Can I have ten points please?
take a course in public speaking,i did. and it worked
The best way to change things about your personality is to act like you are whatever. Act like you are confident and outgoing. It will feel weird at first, but it turns into a habit and then you have changed!
You can do it, it just takes courage.
Better living through alcohol helped me. I began going to clubs and drinking when I was 17. Then I would talk to people. After awhile, I realized people were not as bad as I thought they were and I was able to talk to people without the added benefit of alcohol.
No
Your not alone, a lot of people go threw this.Find people that like to do the same things as you do.
Being around more people, helps.
What i did for this was to find something that i enjoyed so much that i had to share it with others, and that gave me practice in talking with others.
I sure hope this helps.
I suffer from a lack of confidence and shyness, though many people who 'think' they know/knew me would never have known. I think slowly as we become older we do deal with such issues in a better way. You shouldn't change your personality - the core you - that which makes you Special. I'm sure there are different reasons for what you and others (and myself) feel. Even without the confidence, you should remind yourself that you have every right to exist. Providing your heart is more than half good, you should know this:
"Why feel shy when our lives are short? Why feel small when death awaits? Why wait to die before you find true strength? Why be dead when you are alive?"
Try to talk to yourself in front of a mirror several times a day ,a
or ask ''someone '' to make you shy on purpose and i think it will help you to overcome this problem
although you cant tell, i am very shy. i constantly criticize myself, but you know how i got over it? i got new friends (mostly because my old ones kept on putting me down) but they helped me become more confident. they bring out the silliest in me, and it makes me seem confident. i still find it very hard to talk (like give speeches) in front of people, but im working on it =]
Actually, as not many people have known, the shyness comes from your anxiety within. In other words, as long as you're anxious or stressful sometimes or all the time, you're shy and lack of confidence and easy to be nervous, because you couldn't relax and to be yourself as well. So the key here is ANXIETY inside. period! So you'd need to lessen your anxiety a little each day, bits by bits. Don't need to hurry. Try to slow down on your pace of living and to feel the "minute feelings" of the anxiety within and to be with it by yourself. Try it. You'd feel much better when your mind has focused solely on it -- everything else later. As you have lived with the anxiety, it'd be lessened as a result. And you'd become more confidence and less pay attention to other people's criticisms on you. And, then, you'd be less shy.
yes u can overcome it i used to be kinda shy, but when i started working i made it my daily goal to start a conversation with at least one person, and it worked i meet a lot of ppl and made lots of friends. i used to get so nervous thought i remember i would even shake a bit lol.
I used to be very shy, but I'm slowly overcoming my shyness.
Here are a few tips:
-Try to feel calm around ppl
-Pretend like you already know them( it helps you feel more familiar w them and once you feel familiar you won't have such a problm talking to them)
-Try to talk to ppl you don't know (try to talk to schoolmates that you've never talked before) Say anything or ask anything..
The more you practice to talk to ppl you don't know well, the better you get at it. And the more comfortable you'll get.
I know it's not always easy but the more you practice the easier it gets!!
How old are you?
Age is a big factor, right up until I was about 19 I was horrendous in public situtations, then suddenly i just changed.
Honestly can you think of any really shy over 30 year olds, I cant think of many.
Yeah I think you can get over it but not fully. You have to use your willpower and force yourself into uncomfortable social situations and try to handle things. I used to be real shy but now I am not so much.
I am a male and have had this problem all my life. Only now am I getting advice from a cognitive behavioural therapist. It sounds as though you suffer from socia phobia just like I do. Hey your not alone. See your doctor and you will be put in touch with somone who can help you, don't let it carry on I made that mistake.
Can you enlighten me about eating disorders .?
in tears my best friend admit that she is forcing vomit everyday , she did liposuction though she has good looking body and she has good heart. do u think she has eating disorder , and why you think she has this problem ?the problem that his lady a survivors ,,,she had been living in war zone for years , and she had been through very circumstances and i cant understand how she let that problem control her .
Answer:
Yes she has an eating disorder! It's called Bulimia - when a person forces themselves to throw up after eating. Most of the people who develop eating disorders like this do it because they feel like they have no control, so they want to have control over something in their life (their weight). This makes a lot of sense in her situation. You should get her some help as soon as possible if you can.
It deffinately is an eating disorder, but depending on how long and how extensive the disorder is she can either help herself or get help from others. Please encourage her to get help, their is no excuse for eating disorders, her circumstances dont cut it. She's just hurting herself more and more.
Yes, if she is forcing herself to throw up then she has an eating disorder. People have eating disorders for many reasons but it sounds as though in your friends situation it is about a "sense" of control and due to stress probably some anxiety and/or depression and possibly PTSD but only a Dr. can diagnose her.
It is very hard to stop on your own and more than often needs intensive treatment. Typically it begins because of overwhelming emotions and continues to get worse. I used to be anorexic but went into a treatment facility and have been receiving long term, intensive therapy. Ultimately, your friend will need to get to the root of what is bothering her emotionally and then gradually she will begin to get healthy but this can take some time. She will need your support. It is very nice of you to be there for her and to be concerned. She can get better with help. She needs to start seeing a Dr. and/or a therapist as soon as possible as the ramifications can be serious illness and even death. I wish the best for her~
Answer:
Yes she has an eating disorder! It's called Bulimia - when a person forces themselves to throw up after eating. Most of the people who develop eating disorders like this do it because they feel like they have no control, so they want to have control over something in their life (their weight). This makes a lot of sense in her situation. You should get her some help as soon as possible if you can.
It deffinately is an eating disorder, but depending on how long and how extensive the disorder is she can either help herself or get help from others. Please encourage her to get help, their is no excuse for eating disorders, her circumstances dont cut it. She's just hurting herself more and more.
Yes, if she is forcing herself to throw up then she has an eating disorder. People have eating disorders for many reasons but it sounds as though in your friends situation it is about a "sense" of control and due to stress probably some anxiety and/or depression and possibly PTSD but only a Dr. can diagnose her.
It is very hard to stop on your own and more than often needs intensive treatment. Typically it begins because of overwhelming emotions and continues to get worse. I used to be anorexic but went into a treatment facility and have been receiving long term, intensive therapy. Ultimately, your friend will need to get to the root of what is bothering her emotionally and then gradually she will begin to get healthy but this can take some time. She will need your support. It is very nice of you to be there for her and to be concerned. She can get better with help. She needs to start seeing a Dr. and/or a therapist as soon as possible as the ramifications can be serious illness and even death. I wish the best for her~
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