In the paperwork that comes with my citalopram it says that you shouldn't take it if you have epilepsy which i have got,so why have they prescribed it,before you say go and see your doc i've already been and the doc says that the psych should know and the psych says the doc should know so whats the score,also my neurologist doesn't know.
Answer:
Hello,
As a nurse, I am telling you not to take it until you have clear-cut instructions from both doctors. DO NOT TAKE THE MEDICATION. I am assuming the psyche doctor prescribed it. Please call his office now and talk to his nurse. Tell her you have epilepsy and the instructions with the medication clearly state not to take this drug. Then ask her to get specific instructions from the psyche doctor as to whethor or not this medication is contraindicated. Then ask if he/she would like to switch you to another med. Most nurses are happy and willing to help you with a medication question! Most importantly, tell her that you are not going to take it until someone explains this to you in terms you can understand.
Secondly, while you are waiting to hear back from them, call your doctor that treats your epilepsy. Talk to that doctor or a nurse in that office. Tell them your psyche doctor ordered this drug, and the literature says its contraindicated in epilepsy. Then tell them they need to CONSULT with your psyche doctor to decide which treatment they would like to continue and which treatment they would like to stop or change. Next call your neurologists office and tell the nurse that, the other two doctors are giving you the "Run-a-round". Ask that nurse for help too!
No matter what, do not take it until they give you clear cut instructions as to whether or not it is safe to take it. Sometimes two medications are contraindicated, but the benefit outweights the harm. So there may be a reason that your doctors want you take this medication. However, you need to know what the risks are before you take it.
Good Luck,
Angie R.N.
just take it.
no surprise you would be better asking you hairdresser or something, i took this medication and to be honest it messed me up and made me worse, as for your epilepsy i would not take the medication if it says it in black and white, ask to see a new doc and be firm you want answers.stat
I think it's awful that you've been told to take this drug if it's contraindicated for epilepsy which you have - thank goodness you were sensible and double checked the notes.
I'd suggest you ask your primary doctor to refer you to a different psychiatrist; the psychiatrist is meant to be the 'expert' with the medications and if he knew you had epilepsy, and still told you to take Citalopram, then you shouldn't see him again.
You'd never trust any of his advice after this anyway, so you need to see someone better. Good luck with it.
Double check with your doctor before taking the medication, explain to the pyschatrist that you have epilepsy and that you're not sure if you should take it considering the notes mention that you shouldn't if you're epilipetic...DO NOT TAKE IT until you have checked with your doctor.
Hope this helps
I wouldn't take it because of your epilepsy. Check with your GP first. The medical professional who prescribed you the Citalopram should give you the final say about whether to take the medicine or not.
They both sound a bit unprofessional if they are unable to make the decision about whether you should take it or not.
Find out one way or the other before you take it.
In very rare cases these drugs have been known to cause sezures, but i think it is when a person takes a dose that is too high. Thats why it will be written about epilepsy. You need to go and get answers, as many people have written here. If you can't get the answers from who you are currently seeing, then you should go elsewhere. I am guessing that it would depend on how much citalopram you have been recommended to take, your previous history of epilepsy, and if you are taking anything to control epilepsy at the moment.
I took a medication once that was not recommended for people with a history of depression. However, i was perscribed it on the promise that i would continue to take anti-depressants at the same time.
Like i said - definatley speak to someone who can give you the answers before making a decision.
Oh and well done for looking out for you - lots of people would have just taken them.
Good luck.x
I took citalopram for four months in 2006. It was close to the worst four months of my life. At my next appointment, I demanded that the Doc change them.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Citalopram 10MG?
i have been given citalopram for anxiety.. jus wondered other peoples feeling on this antidepressant as i seem to feel tired all the time jus wondering is that something to do with the citalopram. also i am only 17 so i dont really want to feel like an 90yr old woman 24/7!
Answer:
Citalopram will quite often make you feel very dozey when you first start taking it, but perservere and those symptoms will wear off as your body adjusts to the medication - usually within a week or so. 10mg is quite a low dose, so you should get used to it pretty quickly
It might be stating the obvious, but I assume you take it at bed time?
If your feeling drug down by it, then you are taking too high of a dosage. I have not heard any bad things about this drug though. Just talk to your doctor and let him know your concerns.
I have been on Citalopram for 2 years, for anxiety as well as panic attacks. I never feel tired because of it but i am a bit worried that i cannot live without it now.
Are you taking citalopram when your suppose to? ~ Once your body gets used to having the drug in your system you should do fine. If not, talk to your doctor ~ It takes a couple of weeks for this to happen ~the tiredness should pass ~
I had the same thing on Citalopram; I was yawning constantly!
If you've only been on it a week or two, it might get better, as sometimes this side effect does pass. However, you are on a very low dose - it might be worth phoning your doctor and telling him you're tired. Most people take 20mg, but he's probably started you on a low dose because you're so young.
If after a few weeks you still feel really tired, tell your doctor that you're not happy with the medication. Prozac is more energising - you can get it in liquid form, and so you can increase the dose really gradually. Never change the dose of any medication yourself, always ask your doctor.
Have you had any counselling for your anxiety? Or cognitive behavioural therapy? These are definitely worth considering!
Do speak to your doctor; plenty of people have to try more than one of these medications because of side effects such as tiredness.
10mg is the lowest dosage y9ou can have! For a few weeks you will feel lethargic and possibly nauseous until your body gets used to it - stick with it, as it was one of the best ones I ever used.
hang on in there hon. antidepressants take a while to get used to, but your body will adapt to them. in fact, it can take up to 3 months for u to feel the full benefits of the tablets. it's worth persevering with them though... otherwise your doctor would not have felt it necessary to prescribe them to you.
i've suffered with depression on-and-off for the past 7 years or so. it's one of those things that u have to keep battling against. there are other things that u can do to help. exercise is a brilliant natural anti depressant as it releases endorphins, which make u feel happy and de-stressed. u also need to keep your mind busy, so u break out of the cycle of stressful thinking. get a hobby. i took up jewellery making, which keeps my hands and mind busy. but there are loads of other things u could do, depending on what kind of things u enjoy.
also, u need to learn to talk to people about the things that are stressing u. keeping your emotions bottled up is really unhealthy. take it from me - i learnt the hard way. now i talk to my family or chat to friends online when things are starting to get me down.
good luck. things will improve if u keep working at it. take care. x
after about 5-6 weeks you will feel all the benefits so stick with it
I was takin 10mg daily in a morning at 21 years old. It sedated me and made me feel VERY ill. It gave me the worst headaches i have ever experianced in my life. I started on 20mg but went down to 10mg when i changed doctor due to moving as she said i was too slim for 20mg and it would hevily sedate me. After 2 months of taking it i was on deaths door. I had bruises all over me for no reason and i kept near passing out. I was a right state and went to A%26E/ER. They told me i was having a seriously bad reaction to the citalopram and to stop taking it straight away. After 2 days i felt better and after a few months i was fine health wise apart from the panic disorder i was given the for in the first place. The whole situation made my panic worse.
Citalopram is an effective treatment for depression with an anxiety component. It appears you are taking an appropriate dose but your doctors can increase this further to 20mg if necessary. The symptoms of lethargy you are describing are normal and it is hard to equate whether this is due to your depressive illness or to the early stages of taking Citalopram. I suggest that you persevere with your medication and ensure that you have regular clinical reviews by your doctor. It is important to voice any concerns and to take the medication according to the manufacturers guidelines.
It also made me yawn like mad when I first went on it (been on it for 1 month now!). It can make some people feel sick, but with me I just couldn't physically eat a full meal, but was constantly hungry! I was put on 10mg for the 1st 4 days and then up to 20 mg a day from then on.
Keep at it, but if you are seriously concernaed go back to your doctor.
hi im 30 and was taking citalopram 4 8 months i never felt tired while taking them. i am on propanalol aswell. when i stopped taking them though i now feel like doing noyhing. wonder whats going on there then. i found that propanalol is better 4 me but.
I've been on Citalopram for 2yrs now- for depression (which went after 8months) and social anxiety (I still have that, occasionally)
Citalopram is meant to make you feel relaxed, so yes, it's going to make you tired.
I take mine about 1hr before bed, so that I sleep better. I'm OK in the daytime. Pehaps you could try taking yours at a different time? or take 1/2 in the morning, 1/2 at night
My girlfriend is on 20mg a day (of citalopram) for depression and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). She does sometimes get tired and unmotivated.
Fatigue and drowsiness are side effects of taking this medication, you are however on a low dose (the max allowed a day on citalopram is 60mg) so the side effects should be extremely minimal.
For the other side effects look citalopram up on wikipedia.
my gp has just told me to take it in the morning as it perks you up but judging by all your answers i think ill take it at night :)
Answer:
Citalopram will quite often make you feel very dozey when you first start taking it, but perservere and those symptoms will wear off as your body adjusts to the medication - usually within a week or so. 10mg is quite a low dose, so you should get used to it pretty quickly
It might be stating the obvious, but I assume you take it at bed time?
If your feeling drug down by it, then you are taking too high of a dosage. I have not heard any bad things about this drug though. Just talk to your doctor and let him know your concerns.
I have been on Citalopram for 2 years, for anxiety as well as panic attacks. I never feel tired because of it but i am a bit worried that i cannot live without it now.
Are you taking citalopram when your suppose to? ~ Once your body gets used to having the drug in your system you should do fine. If not, talk to your doctor ~ It takes a couple of weeks for this to happen ~the tiredness should pass ~
I had the same thing on Citalopram; I was yawning constantly!
If you've only been on it a week or two, it might get better, as sometimes this side effect does pass. However, you are on a very low dose - it might be worth phoning your doctor and telling him you're tired. Most people take 20mg, but he's probably started you on a low dose because you're so young.
If after a few weeks you still feel really tired, tell your doctor that you're not happy with the medication. Prozac is more energising - you can get it in liquid form, and so you can increase the dose really gradually. Never change the dose of any medication yourself, always ask your doctor.
Have you had any counselling for your anxiety? Or cognitive behavioural therapy? These are definitely worth considering!
Do speak to your doctor; plenty of people have to try more than one of these medications because of side effects such as tiredness.
10mg is the lowest dosage y9ou can have! For a few weeks you will feel lethargic and possibly nauseous until your body gets used to it - stick with it, as it was one of the best ones I ever used.
hang on in there hon. antidepressants take a while to get used to, but your body will adapt to them. in fact, it can take up to 3 months for u to feel the full benefits of the tablets. it's worth persevering with them though... otherwise your doctor would not have felt it necessary to prescribe them to you.
i've suffered with depression on-and-off for the past 7 years or so. it's one of those things that u have to keep battling against. there are other things that u can do to help. exercise is a brilliant natural anti depressant as it releases endorphins, which make u feel happy and de-stressed. u also need to keep your mind busy, so u break out of the cycle of stressful thinking. get a hobby. i took up jewellery making, which keeps my hands and mind busy. but there are loads of other things u could do, depending on what kind of things u enjoy.
also, u need to learn to talk to people about the things that are stressing u. keeping your emotions bottled up is really unhealthy. take it from me - i learnt the hard way. now i talk to my family or chat to friends online when things are starting to get me down.
good luck. things will improve if u keep working at it. take care. x
after about 5-6 weeks you will feel all the benefits so stick with it
I was takin 10mg daily in a morning at 21 years old. It sedated me and made me feel VERY ill. It gave me the worst headaches i have ever experianced in my life. I started on 20mg but went down to 10mg when i changed doctor due to moving as she said i was too slim for 20mg and it would hevily sedate me. After 2 months of taking it i was on deaths door. I had bruises all over me for no reason and i kept near passing out. I was a right state and went to A%26E/ER. They told me i was having a seriously bad reaction to the citalopram and to stop taking it straight away. After 2 days i felt better and after a few months i was fine health wise apart from the panic disorder i was given the for in the first place. The whole situation made my panic worse.
Citalopram is an effective treatment for depression with an anxiety component. It appears you are taking an appropriate dose but your doctors can increase this further to 20mg if necessary. The symptoms of lethargy you are describing are normal and it is hard to equate whether this is due to your depressive illness or to the early stages of taking Citalopram. I suggest that you persevere with your medication and ensure that you have regular clinical reviews by your doctor. It is important to voice any concerns and to take the medication according to the manufacturers guidelines.
It also made me yawn like mad when I first went on it (been on it for 1 month now!). It can make some people feel sick, but with me I just couldn't physically eat a full meal, but was constantly hungry! I was put on 10mg for the 1st 4 days and then up to 20 mg a day from then on.
Keep at it, but if you are seriously concernaed go back to your doctor.
hi im 30 and was taking citalopram 4 8 months i never felt tired while taking them. i am on propanalol aswell. when i stopped taking them though i now feel like doing noyhing. wonder whats going on there then. i found that propanalol is better 4 me but.
I've been on Citalopram for 2yrs now- for depression (which went after 8months) and social anxiety (I still have that, occasionally)
Citalopram is meant to make you feel relaxed, so yes, it's going to make you tired.
I take mine about 1hr before bed, so that I sleep better. I'm OK in the daytime. Pehaps you could try taking yours at a different time? or take 1/2 in the morning, 1/2 at night
My girlfriend is on 20mg a day (of citalopram) for depression and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). She does sometimes get tired and unmotivated.
Fatigue and drowsiness are side effects of taking this medication, you are however on a low dose (the max allowed a day on citalopram is 60mg) so the side effects should be extremely minimal.
For the other side effects look citalopram up on wikipedia.
my gp has just told me to take it in the morning as it perks you up but judging by all your answers i think ill take it at night :)
Cipralex in pregnancy?
my doctor has prescribed me cipralex am 16 weeks pregnant and suffering from anixiety and depression symptoms not really bad at the moment but enough to effect daily life. hes put me on 5mg he said the risk is very low but am still bit scared to take them. ive been on this medication b4 i got pregnant but stopped when i found out i was expecting. i dont know what to do because i dont want my symptoms getting worse but at the same time am thinking about the baby.
Answer:
5mg is a tiny, tiny dose, but of course I can appreciate you're worried.
Some anti depressants do carry warnings that they should be stopped if the woman taking them is pregnant - you need to look in the leaflet that comes with your Cipralex and see if it says anything. If there is a warning, then you'll have to decide.
If you're very depressed, obviously you need help to cope. If you do stop the Cipralex, get your doctor to arrange some counselling, or some cognitive behavioural therapy, which has been proven effective for helping depression.
Right now, though, check the Cipralex leaflet and see what it says about pregnancy - good luck with it.
well just because you have them in the house doesnt mean to say you have to take them, try concentrating on the fact that you are having a baby, and the fact thats its a beautiful experience, focus all of energy into that, eat more chocolate, it helped me ;-) but just think happy thought, baby thoughts see if that gets you through.good luck and congrats
go back to your doctor and tell them how worried you are about any effects they could have on your baby. It is important
to take care of yourself and worrying about taking them wont help.Ask for referal to a CPN who will talk to you and give you leaflets and advice. I saw one for post natal depression and he was really easy to talk to gave me leaflets and advice. I am now coming off my snti drepressents and my daughter is 20 months.feel free to stay in touch.
There is not enough research on taking antidepressants during pregnancy so there isn't much stuff to research on the internet.
You have to weigh up the pro's and con's yourself and if you feel that the risk of developing depression during pregnancy is high for you then consider taking it, if not,don't.
See your GP to see if you have any services available where you live to have a CPN to monitor and support you during and shortly after the birth of your baby.Just by having that person in the background very often helps.If one of your other children is under 5 you should still have the support of a health visitor who can do listening visits.
If you really don't want to take them go back to the doctors and find out what advice he can give you. If you are not happy with his advice get another independent persons advice, as long as they are a doctor and medically qualified. talk with your partner, mother, and your midwife or someone close who cares about you.
Have a room in your house painted in your favourite colour and begin to fill it, turn it into your favourite room, where you feel happy. Put things in the room that represent your personality, things that you have bought on holiday or weekend trips, two different comfy chairs so that you can relax with your new baby...etc. Look up on aromatherapy oils, which ones will lift your spirit and which ones you can use before and after your pregnancy. make it smell and look like somewhere you can feel the love %26 happiness oouzzzz out of you.
Answer:
5mg is a tiny, tiny dose, but of course I can appreciate you're worried.
Some anti depressants do carry warnings that they should be stopped if the woman taking them is pregnant - you need to look in the leaflet that comes with your Cipralex and see if it says anything. If there is a warning, then you'll have to decide.
If you're very depressed, obviously you need help to cope. If you do stop the Cipralex, get your doctor to arrange some counselling, or some cognitive behavioural therapy, which has been proven effective for helping depression.
Right now, though, check the Cipralex leaflet and see what it says about pregnancy - good luck with it.
well just because you have them in the house doesnt mean to say you have to take them, try concentrating on the fact that you are having a baby, and the fact thats its a beautiful experience, focus all of energy into that, eat more chocolate, it helped me ;-) but just think happy thought, baby thoughts see if that gets you through.good luck and congrats
go back to your doctor and tell them how worried you are about any effects they could have on your baby. It is important
to take care of yourself and worrying about taking them wont help.Ask for referal to a CPN who will talk to you and give you leaflets and advice. I saw one for post natal depression and he was really easy to talk to gave me leaflets and advice. I am now coming off my snti drepressents and my daughter is 20 months.feel free to stay in touch.
There is not enough research on taking antidepressants during pregnancy so there isn't much stuff to research on the internet.
You have to weigh up the pro's and con's yourself and if you feel that the risk of developing depression during pregnancy is high for you then consider taking it, if not,don't.
See your GP to see if you have any services available where you live to have a CPN to monitor and support you during and shortly after the birth of your baby.Just by having that person in the background very often helps.If one of your other children is under 5 you should still have the support of a health visitor who can do listening visits.
If you really don't want to take them go back to the doctors and find out what advice he can give you. If you are not happy with his advice get another independent persons advice, as long as they are a doctor and medically qualified. talk with your partner, mother, and your midwife or someone close who cares about you.
Have a room in your house painted in your favourite colour and begin to fill it, turn it into your favourite room, where you feel happy. Put things in the room that represent your personality, things that you have bought on holiday or weekend trips, two different comfy chairs so that you can relax with your new baby...etc. Look up on aromatherapy oils, which ones will lift your spirit and which ones you can use before and after your pregnancy. make it smell and look like somewhere you can feel the love %26 happiness oouzzzz out of you.
Christmas Day?
I found my moms boyfriend dead on Christmas and I still think about it. Is there something wrong with me?
Answer:
did he commit sucide because if he did it is normal to still think about it
noo its sad and crazy i know how it feels. i wnt t hear more about this email me at jamilo1234@yahoo.com thnk u
theres absolutely nothing wrong with you, you just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time...
if it was suicide (which it sounds like it was) then its absolutely normal to still think about it, the key for steadying yourself back into society is to not let that memory affect everything you do (in other words its ok to reflect on your emotions as long as you only reflect)
im completely sorry about this loss (both for your mother and for you if you two were close at all)
Hi:
Thankfully, no there is nothing wrong with you. I think what you are experiencing is a natural reaction to a traumatic event.
I would suggest that you see a therapist though, to help you work thru this and give you guidance on your situation.
Be Well
Answer:
did he commit sucide because if he did it is normal to still think about it
noo its sad and crazy i know how it feels. i wnt t hear more about this email me at jamilo1234@yahoo.com thnk u
theres absolutely nothing wrong with you, you just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time...
if it was suicide (which it sounds like it was) then its absolutely normal to still think about it, the key for steadying yourself back into society is to not let that memory affect everything you do (in other words its ok to reflect on your emotions as long as you only reflect)
im completely sorry about this loss (both for your mother and for you if you two were close at all)
Hi:
Thankfully, no there is nothing wrong with you. I think what you are experiencing is a natural reaction to a traumatic event.
I would suggest that you see a therapist though, to help you work thru this and give you guidance on your situation.
Be Well
Choice of living in a retirement village when ageing.?
I am a very active female, married and still working. My question relates to older people (other than me but also for me when I am much older). When my father died my mother went into a retirement resort mainly because my sisters thought it best for her to get settled somewhere before she reached to urgent stage (e.g. health deteriorated). As a trained nurse I was trained to think differently - there are all the resources in the community that one needs to stay in you rown home as long as possible and this should be encouraged. As it was my mother's memory went very quickly from the shock of being on her own in a unit, out of her usual environment (so she lost confidence in driving the car and lost her independence, familiar faces and activities). (She was 87yrs and lived a VERY active life previously, including playing golf twice a week, did the family business wages, met with friends etc. ). She went from bad to worse. What is your opinion?
Answer:
My grandmother died at the age of 85 and she refused to die in a retirement center. She died where she raised 6 kids, and had a husband for 50 years of her marriage. She may have not remembered as much in her later years due to dymencia, but she belonged in her own house with her family. I think a retirement home is when you dump it on someone else's porch. I would never do that to my mother, or myself.
suggestion: the retirement house shoild be near a scenic
gulf course
Western society has little if any respect for their eldest. In many other cultures the advancment of age is highly respected...and these cultures dont COPOUT when it comes to caring for their elders. Not so in the western quick fix, me before you mental ideology of modern America!! Like you said...people are trained to think the way they do...do it long enuff...and the brainwash becomes unquestionable as well as inconvenient. And being 'inconvenient' could pose a 'national security risk' in the minds of the public! 8o)
OK one of the evil statistics out there is that roughly half of the elderly that are put in homes are dead within 6 months of being put there for various reasons. The most prominant seems to be the lack of a will to live.
Multiple studies have shown that if a person is involved in their community, if they are leading an active life, they will live many times longer than someone in a insular community. I would get your mother out of a 'retirement community' (and never allow yourself to be put in one) never surrender your home.
I would make her/you a part of your/your childrens daily life and routine, a member of the core family. I would give her/you a reason to live %26 remember beyond "tuesday is community bingo and six months from now Tommy will send me a card."
I can tell you that the elders in my family that were cared for by family in the family home, lived more than a decade longer than those that were not.
I think you already know the answer to your question. I think you knew it before you placed your mom in the "retirement resort". I think you were out-voted and I am sorry for that. Please do not be bitter toward your sisters; they didn't know any better. You knew because of your experience as a nurse and they didn't have that education to help them make an informed decision.
There is nothing you can do about it now. I am afraid that if you were to bring her back home at this point, she would regress even further. I think you know what the best choice for her is and I think you should voice your opposition a little louder and put your foot down this time.
Have you asked your mom how she feels about the options?
I'm in my 20s and if I make it to retirement and even old age, I most certainly expect to be living in a retirement community. Since I won't be having children, I'll be saving up plenty of money, so I'm not stuck in a hole. It would cool to hang out with a bunch of old geezers when I'm old!
I think it's different than when someone is expecting something different. Like your mother and my parents and many generations expect and some even had children simply so they'd be around to take care of them when they're old! When you're expecting to be taken care of but then you're put into a home, it's probably very frightening and maybe even painful.
Our society doesn't allow for people to take care of their parents like it used to. It's not that people are selfish and lack respect. Traditionally, women were trapped in the home with the kids and the grandparents and a single income was okay, these days? Most certainly not possible for most of us and even fewer want it. As the older generations die off, I think that sort of shock of being in a retirement/nursing home to die off with it.
My mother went into one at a much earlier stage. She is fit and healthy. She immerses herself in the activities and enjoys her life. She's 68, by the way. There will be no shock for her if she becomes ill. She does have a heart condition, so this is probably would made her realise she would need care. She loves her life.
My parents-in-law decided to go into a retirement village. At the last moment, though, my father in law would pull out, saying he couldn't face it. It was a nightmare, especially when my formerly fit mother-in-law fell ill with cancer and in effect, left him after 65 years of marriage to move into the retirement vilage on her own, as she needed surgery and treatment. My fil refused to go, saying he would cut his throat rather than move. My father-in-law starved to death, in his own home. He was stubborn and refused help. My poor mil had to live with the guilt - no wonder she died less than a year after he did.
Her life was made a misery because she was struggling to maintain her high standards of cleanliness, while my fil sat on his bum. She waited on him hand and foot. He had a heart condition.
So if you had to ask my mil and my mother, both would say the same thing. Move in, long before you have to. My fil would say "no".
Answer:
My grandmother died at the age of 85 and she refused to die in a retirement center. She died where she raised 6 kids, and had a husband for 50 years of her marriage. She may have not remembered as much in her later years due to dymencia, but she belonged in her own house with her family. I think a retirement home is when you dump it on someone else's porch. I would never do that to my mother, or myself.
suggestion: the retirement house shoild be near a scenic
gulf course
Western society has little if any respect for their eldest. In many other cultures the advancment of age is highly respected...and these cultures dont COPOUT when it comes to caring for their elders. Not so in the western quick fix, me before you mental ideology of modern America!! Like you said...people are trained to think the way they do...do it long enuff...and the brainwash becomes unquestionable as well as inconvenient. And being 'inconvenient' could pose a 'national security risk' in the minds of the public! 8o)
OK one of the evil statistics out there is that roughly half of the elderly that are put in homes are dead within 6 months of being put there for various reasons. The most prominant seems to be the lack of a will to live.
Multiple studies have shown that if a person is involved in their community, if they are leading an active life, they will live many times longer than someone in a insular community. I would get your mother out of a 'retirement community' (and never allow yourself to be put in one) never surrender your home.
I would make her/you a part of your/your childrens daily life and routine, a member of the core family. I would give her/you a reason to live %26 remember beyond "tuesday is community bingo and six months from now Tommy will send me a card."
I can tell you that the elders in my family that were cared for by family in the family home, lived more than a decade longer than those that were not.
I think you already know the answer to your question. I think you knew it before you placed your mom in the "retirement resort". I think you were out-voted and I am sorry for that. Please do not be bitter toward your sisters; they didn't know any better. You knew because of your experience as a nurse and they didn't have that education to help them make an informed decision.
There is nothing you can do about it now. I am afraid that if you were to bring her back home at this point, she would regress even further. I think you know what the best choice for her is and I think you should voice your opposition a little louder and put your foot down this time.
Have you asked your mom how she feels about the options?
I'm in my 20s and if I make it to retirement and even old age, I most certainly expect to be living in a retirement community. Since I won't be having children, I'll be saving up plenty of money, so I'm not stuck in a hole. It would cool to hang out with a bunch of old geezers when I'm old!
I think it's different than when someone is expecting something different. Like your mother and my parents and many generations expect and some even had children simply so they'd be around to take care of them when they're old! When you're expecting to be taken care of but then you're put into a home, it's probably very frightening and maybe even painful.
Our society doesn't allow for people to take care of their parents like it used to. It's not that people are selfish and lack respect. Traditionally, women were trapped in the home with the kids and the grandparents and a single income was okay, these days? Most certainly not possible for most of us and even fewer want it. As the older generations die off, I think that sort of shock of being in a retirement/nursing home to die off with it.
My mother went into one at a much earlier stage. She is fit and healthy. She immerses herself in the activities and enjoys her life. She's 68, by the way. There will be no shock for her if she becomes ill. She does have a heart condition, so this is probably would made her realise she would need care. She loves her life.
My parents-in-law decided to go into a retirement village. At the last moment, though, my father in law would pull out, saying he couldn't face it. It was a nightmare, especially when my formerly fit mother-in-law fell ill with cancer and in effect, left him after 65 years of marriage to move into the retirement vilage on her own, as she needed surgery and treatment. My fil refused to go, saying he would cut his throat rather than move. My father-in-law starved to death, in his own home. He was stubborn and refused help. My poor mil had to live with the guilt - no wonder she died less than a year after he did.
Her life was made a misery because she was struggling to maintain her high standards of cleanliness, while my fil sat on his bum. She waited on him hand and foot. He had a heart condition.
So if you had to ask my mil and my mother, both would say the same thing. Move in, long before you have to. My fil would say "no".
Children with Asperger's Syndrome?
My 4 year old daughter was recently diagnosed with Asperger's and I am beginning to recognize red flags in her 7 year old sister. I that there are some genetic links, but was wondering if there are other families with several children with this disorder, and how to cope. I'm 34 weeks pregnant with my third daughter and feeling overwhelmed.
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Well, my brother has PDD-NOS (similar to Asperger's) and I might have a very mild case of Asperger's, but I haven't been tested/evaluated by a psych. Yes, there are other families out there that definitely have two or more kids on the autistic spectrum. I haven't seen statistics on Asperger's, but for autism the odds of the sibling of a child with autism having autism as well are like 3-6%, and if two siblings have it the odds of the third sibling having it as well go up to iirc 20%, but I'm not sure about the latter number. Of course, the odds of a girl having autism/Asperger's are way lower than of a boy, so if you have two girls with an autistic spectrum disorder then you're pretty weird, to be honest.
Aspies range in how severe their problems are... plenty of them go to college and get married and such, although plenty of them don't. In fact, I'd recommend looking into yourself and your husband to see whether one or both of you show any symptoms... there's a fair chance that at least one of you has a very mild case of Asperger's (or Asperger's shadow, however you want to call it). There is a lot of information out there on the internet and such... use Yahoo Groups for example to find mailing lists for people with Asperger's and for parents of kids with Asperger's, etc. Some people see it as a disorder, others see it more as a different "personality type". Personally I think it depends on the severity of the condition. Anyway, your daughters might need a bit more help with figuring out social situations and such... you might want to explain those kinds of things more explicitly to them instead of assuming they'll just learn that stuff automatically. Also, I'm a fan of homeschooling... think about it.
Okay, I could write a ton more, but the point is that it's not necessarily all that bad to have kids that are Aspies and that there's a ton of resources out there that you should take a look at.
How serious is this? I don't know I never heard of this before. Does she get all the care she needs. Is it like a learning issue or more serious like ALS (lou gerhigs disease). Also, you should make sure your doctor gives you all the information you need and do everything you can to help her and increase her life expectency. I believe someone told me this was a neurodegenerative disease, but make sure you see your doctor again and see exactly what to do, so she will have a better outcome.
While I am no expert, I dated a guy with aspburgers's syndrome and 5 year old cousin has it as well, and is in fact borderline autistic. Jordan's (the boy I dated) sisters showed no signs of the condition, but he was a textbook case, so there is not always a genetic link. Therefore, don't worry about your unborn child, the odds of all of your three children experiencing this would be very rare. And even if your oldest and unborn child are also effected, think positively! The pure fact that i DATED a boy with this syndrome should be proof to you that this doesn't have to be terribly life-altering. This boy was a genius, and in his state-level honors choir. Aspergers doesn't have to old your children back, I realize that having special needs kids can feel overwhelming, but understand that this condition does not have to overwhelm your children. For now, they are kids, and they have years of LIFE in front of them, this will NOT stop them from being great people.
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Well, my brother has PDD-NOS (similar to Asperger's) and I might have a very mild case of Asperger's, but I haven't been tested/evaluated by a psych. Yes, there are other families out there that definitely have two or more kids on the autistic spectrum. I haven't seen statistics on Asperger's, but for autism the odds of the sibling of a child with autism having autism as well are like 3-6%, and if two siblings have it the odds of the third sibling having it as well go up to iirc 20%, but I'm not sure about the latter number. Of course, the odds of a girl having autism/Asperger's are way lower than of a boy, so if you have two girls with an autistic spectrum disorder then you're pretty weird, to be honest.
Aspies range in how severe their problems are... plenty of them go to college and get married and such, although plenty of them don't. In fact, I'd recommend looking into yourself and your husband to see whether one or both of you show any symptoms... there's a fair chance that at least one of you has a very mild case of Asperger's (or Asperger's shadow, however you want to call it). There is a lot of information out there on the internet and such... use Yahoo Groups for example to find mailing lists for people with Asperger's and for parents of kids with Asperger's, etc. Some people see it as a disorder, others see it more as a different "personality type". Personally I think it depends on the severity of the condition. Anyway, your daughters might need a bit more help with figuring out social situations and such... you might want to explain those kinds of things more explicitly to them instead of assuming they'll just learn that stuff automatically. Also, I'm a fan of homeschooling... think about it.
Okay, I could write a ton more, but the point is that it's not necessarily all that bad to have kids that are Aspies and that there's a ton of resources out there that you should take a look at.
How serious is this? I don't know I never heard of this before. Does she get all the care she needs. Is it like a learning issue or more serious like ALS (lou gerhigs disease). Also, you should make sure your doctor gives you all the information you need and do everything you can to help her and increase her life expectency. I believe someone told me this was a neurodegenerative disease, but make sure you see your doctor again and see exactly what to do, so she will have a better outcome.
While I am no expert, I dated a guy with aspburgers's syndrome and 5 year old cousin has it as well, and is in fact borderline autistic. Jordan's (the boy I dated) sisters showed no signs of the condition, but he was a textbook case, so there is not always a genetic link. Therefore, don't worry about your unborn child, the odds of all of your three children experiencing this would be very rare. And even if your oldest and unborn child are also effected, think positively! The pure fact that i DATED a boy with this syndrome should be proof to you that this doesn't have to be terribly life-altering. This boy was a genius, and in his state-level honors choir. Aspergers doesn't have to old your children back, I realize that having special needs kids can feel overwhelming, but understand that this condition does not have to overwhelm your children. For now, they are kids, and they have years of LIFE in front of them, this will NOT stop them from being great people.
Childhood Issue That Never Seems To Go Away?
Since I was a little boy, I always had memories of being put back into diapers at an age that was not age-appropriate. I always wanted to confront my parents about it, especially my Dad b/c most of the memories I had were related to him. I didn't get the courage to confront my parents about it until I was in my early 20's (I'm 26 now) They confirmed that it happened and gave different reasons as to why it did. When I was little I had trouble with constipation and had to be given suppositories to make me go. My Mom had said that they were afraid I wouldn't be able to hold it b/c of the medicine and bought me diapers as a result. Another reaon was that I went to work with my Dad on his school bus and my Dad said he couldn't have stopped in the middle of his route. The last reason given by my Dad is that I couldn't button my pants in Kindergarten and had to wear a diaper to school b/c of it. It killks me to think I walked around like that in school. I have memories of being .
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If it's something that really bothers you, it might be a good idea to find a counsellor.
There's nothing wrong with an IQ of 96. It's average--you're about as smart as most people. I heard somewhere that President Bush's IQ is 89.
It probably pains your mom to see that and also women tend to like to shelter their kids from this stuff anyway because it might hurt their feelings.
Hey, what is the question? Seems you are obsessing about this,which has nothing to do with your IQ. If it becomes a problem to where you can't stop thinking about it, see a doctor. Could be OCD, which is when a person thinks they have to do something that doesn't make sense,just to be in control. If it actually happened, it really doesn't matter now.
Wow. At least they had some reasons. I'm sorry that happened to you. It is not your fault. Children are almost completely dependent on their adults. You know we spend the first 16-18 years of our life with our parents and the rest of our life recovering from them.
This is a big one. I have a niece who did the same thing with her child, she was getting ready to go to school and I remember saying to her you better get her use to going on the toilet or all the kids are going to laugh at her, she was very tiny and was very afraid of sitting on the toilet, and her mother just got into the habit of putting a diaper on her, out of laziness I guess and instead of working to try and help her get over her fear she just put on the diaper and before she knew it it was time to hurry up and make some changes. She did succeed but it took the whole summer. If you were having trouble with going I could see a parent putting on a diaper until the medicine worked. But from what I've read this is the most important time in life, a lot of things can happen to the physique at this time. If I were you I'd consult a doctor, sometime counseling helps with things like this, I'm sure the doctors heard it all before, so don't be ashamed. Sometimes parents do forget when and how they did things, that doesn't matter, all that matters is that you get over thinking somethings wrong with you, we all have our little mind blowing secrets that can drive us crazy thinking about them, don't worry it's not your fault, who remembers anyway, and if you still know someone who knows their old enough to know now that it had nothing to do with your doings. Oh what our parents do to us, they raise us for about twenty years and it takes us another twenty to get over it. Please feel better about yourself, you did nothing wrong
Hi. I really feel that your parents had your best interests at heart. I think that they phased you off diapers a little late due to practical reasons. From the given information your sole reason for being disturbed about this issue is due to the supposed embarassment that you were faced with when wearing diapers till an age much older than was necessary. If you really think about it , Do you think that people who saw you wearing diapers at the time remember that you were a bit too old for diapers ? The answer is probably ' No.' Those people who saw you at the time have moved forward with their lives and have in all probability forgotten about it. For a person to be embarassed about something, then for this embarassment to take place, people would have to be aware of it. That said, you are feeling embarassed about something which people have forgotten about. I hope you realise what i am attempting to explain. What i am saying is that you are feeling ashamed about something which people have forgotten about and therefore are not aware about. By doing this you are expending a great deal of energy and spending a lot of time. Think to yourself, all this time i have spent dwelling on the past , what have i have achieved ?. Unfortunately, the past is something we cannot erase. But we can do something about the present. I feel that you should bring closure to this issue by telling yourself ' i am feeling ashamed about something which happened a long time ago, which no one can even remember. My parents have acted in my best interests and did not mean to hurt me in any way. I am going put this issue behind me and use my time and energy more wisely and meaningfully.' I sincerely hope that you are able to deal with this issue and move on with your life.
Dude, an IQ of 96 is pretty much average. Average is 100, but the range for average is 80-120. Your IQ definitely isn't low or anything, like 46% or so of all people have an IQ that's lower than yours.
Anyway, I don't usually say this, but I think you just need to get over it. It happened, but that was in the past. You don't need to let it affect your life anymore. Obviously your parents did what they thought would be best, and didn't mean to do you harm. It doesn't mean you're defective. Just try to focus on good stuff in your life.
If you really can't let this go, you need to see a psychologist.
A psychologist may indeed help, but - if Meng is reading this - I know too well how you can't just "let it go", how these experiences become part of your basic mental reactions and all kinds of unrelated things remind you of them.
96 is an average 1Q. So don't worry about it!
Childhood humilation is real whether it was intentionally cruel or not. Because the memories are stored so early they are more emotional than rational, which is why you may have a hard time reasoning yourself away from the feelings of humiliation. Try some EMDR therapy to release this so that it doesn't hold you back in life!
I know you directed this question more towards men but I had a very similar incident happen to me as well. I suffered chronic urinary tract infections and sometimes would wet myself and then because of my parents inability to properly react to the situation I became ashamed to go to the bathroom and would hold it for long periods of time. Sometimes I would urinate or defecate in my clothes and as a punishment I had to wear diapers. It is humiliating and degrading to be so different at an age where children point out the obvious and make fun of the odd one out. My parents still think they did the right thing and I still am pissed off over it. Nothing is going to change the fact they did it, I still have issues and neither of us are going to change our minds. The best advice I could give you is to realize that even though it happened for whatever reason, your parents are human and they can make mistakes too. Sometimes small and sometimes so huge you can't even believe it. You can spend your time agonizing over it or take a proactive stance in making you happy. I would seek the advice of a therapist that could set you on the road to coming to terms with jealousy and anger issues. I am glad that you are in touch with your feelings enough to be so open in discussing your ordeal. Having a 96 IQ score is just that...a score. Numbers are just clever tags for things so we can file them neatly away in orderly fashion. You get your point across well and can adequately express yourself so forget the IQ none sense. Take care of yourself and make steps to being a better person than your dad. I wish you well and hope you get some closure to this soon. Good Luck!
Obviously this is causing you problems. Get yourself an appointment with a mental health therapist. You can start by talking to a school counselor if you are still in school. If not, you can call your county health department and ask about mental health services. Whoever you go to should not make you uncomfortable. If you don't feel you can trust them by your fourth session get a new counselor. But keep trying till you find one you can really open up to. It may take time but you opened up to the whole world by asking this so you obviously are willing to work thru this. You'll be surprised at how much it relieves you to talk about it in a non-judgemental environment like a therapist's office.
thy r not suppoose to go way u r suuppose to remeber thm
It's a role/age play fetish thing, explore with someone you love.
go to a shrink and make your parents pay for it.
I am still friends with lots of kids from my elementry school. We laugh about stuff from back then, sometimes its about pretty serious stuff.but you just laugh because you had no control.now you do..so it's really OK, because whatever happened, you lived through it.
Don't know how you stop thinking about it. That will be the tricky part.
I have read ur story over and over and am pretty sure that you do not have a problem and u are only creating 1 4 ur self.
i think u are poolin up 2 much..
ease it.. if i were u , i would never care a dam...u r quite normal now, then wats da problem.
as for ur IQ, IQ figures are the most misleading indices about onself... i mean it statistically .. IQ's are based on formulaes which are seriously flawed because most of them assume IQ to be constant with age..which common logic tells us is not possible
EQ is more important..thats Emotional Quotiotent...
(take the case of my country - India... most of our political leaders and statesmen never cleared higher secoandry...they flunk over and over again...when education did not work out...they took politics.. they have great EQs)
Leave ur past behind...look towards a brighter future.. and in case memmories haunt u... take a ride..go for a walk, workout..
Doent ever see a counsellor...cause u dont need one...if you do, it will always tormentize u that u had to see one cause U werent normal. rather talk 2 someone else.. a friend or rather someone much elder %26gt;%26gt;%26gt;grandparents ! !
i was known to be a dumb sort of guy till i was 15 cause i was simply shy and would not talk to anyone... no one expected me to become a school prefect and da president of my schools debating society. i suffered in silience for quite a couple of months during school.. till i understood the power of change.
Try to walk and move around with an attitude... if anyone says its wrong, shoot back " who said its mandatory to be right "
This boosts confidence..
U for sure have some hidden talent.. explore urself , identify and build upon them.if life cant get better, it could certainly get worse... dont let it.... make da most of it...
Dont forget . people around you are not any better or superior.. they are again people after all...bundles of 'weaknesses...'.
i could go on writing. i will stop now...i dont mind seein a wasted person.. i do mind seeing a person who is wasting himself for no reason. DONT BE SUCH A PERSON...
I think this is not unusual due to your cirmcumstance and that your reaction confirms that you are NORMAL for having these reactions. You DO however need to get some consseling to learn how to deal with the past. We cannot control our past, only our present and how we leave the past behind. You are not able yet to do this so someone, a good therapist can help you. SOmetimes it takes a few to find the right one. Beleive in yourself. Get the help you deserve.
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If it's something that really bothers you, it might be a good idea to find a counsellor.
There's nothing wrong with an IQ of 96. It's average--you're about as smart as most people. I heard somewhere that President Bush's IQ is 89.
It probably pains your mom to see that and also women tend to like to shelter their kids from this stuff anyway because it might hurt their feelings.
Hey, what is the question? Seems you are obsessing about this,which has nothing to do with your IQ. If it becomes a problem to where you can't stop thinking about it, see a doctor. Could be OCD, which is when a person thinks they have to do something that doesn't make sense,just to be in control. If it actually happened, it really doesn't matter now.
Wow. At least they had some reasons. I'm sorry that happened to you. It is not your fault. Children are almost completely dependent on their adults. You know we spend the first 16-18 years of our life with our parents and the rest of our life recovering from them.
This is a big one. I have a niece who did the same thing with her child, she was getting ready to go to school and I remember saying to her you better get her use to going on the toilet or all the kids are going to laugh at her, she was very tiny and was very afraid of sitting on the toilet, and her mother just got into the habit of putting a diaper on her, out of laziness I guess and instead of working to try and help her get over her fear she just put on the diaper and before she knew it it was time to hurry up and make some changes. She did succeed but it took the whole summer. If you were having trouble with going I could see a parent putting on a diaper until the medicine worked. But from what I've read this is the most important time in life, a lot of things can happen to the physique at this time. If I were you I'd consult a doctor, sometime counseling helps with things like this, I'm sure the doctors heard it all before, so don't be ashamed. Sometimes parents do forget when and how they did things, that doesn't matter, all that matters is that you get over thinking somethings wrong with you, we all have our little mind blowing secrets that can drive us crazy thinking about them, don't worry it's not your fault, who remembers anyway, and if you still know someone who knows their old enough to know now that it had nothing to do with your doings. Oh what our parents do to us, they raise us for about twenty years and it takes us another twenty to get over it. Please feel better about yourself, you did nothing wrong
Hi. I really feel that your parents had your best interests at heart. I think that they phased you off diapers a little late due to practical reasons. From the given information your sole reason for being disturbed about this issue is due to the supposed embarassment that you were faced with when wearing diapers till an age much older than was necessary. If you really think about it , Do you think that people who saw you wearing diapers at the time remember that you were a bit too old for diapers ? The answer is probably ' No.' Those people who saw you at the time have moved forward with their lives and have in all probability forgotten about it. For a person to be embarassed about something, then for this embarassment to take place, people would have to be aware of it. That said, you are feeling embarassed about something which people have forgotten about. I hope you realise what i am attempting to explain. What i am saying is that you are feeling ashamed about something which people have forgotten about and therefore are not aware about. By doing this you are expending a great deal of energy and spending a lot of time. Think to yourself, all this time i have spent dwelling on the past , what have i have achieved ?. Unfortunately, the past is something we cannot erase. But we can do something about the present. I feel that you should bring closure to this issue by telling yourself ' i am feeling ashamed about something which happened a long time ago, which no one can even remember. My parents have acted in my best interests and did not mean to hurt me in any way. I am going put this issue behind me and use my time and energy more wisely and meaningfully.' I sincerely hope that you are able to deal with this issue and move on with your life.
Dude, an IQ of 96 is pretty much average. Average is 100, but the range for average is 80-120. Your IQ definitely isn't low or anything, like 46% or so of all people have an IQ that's lower than yours.
Anyway, I don't usually say this, but I think you just need to get over it. It happened, but that was in the past. You don't need to let it affect your life anymore. Obviously your parents did what they thought would be best, and didn't mean to do you harm. It doesn't mean you're defective. Just try to focus on good stuff in your life.
If you really can't let this go, you need to see a psychologist.
A psychologist may indeed help, but - if Meng is reading this - I know too well how you can't just "let it go", how these experiences become part of your basic mental reactions and all kinds of unrelated things remind you of them.
96 is an average 1Q. So don't worry about it!
Childhood humilation is real whether it was intentionally cruel or not. Because the memories are stored so early they are more emotional than rational, which is why you may have a hard time reasoning yourself away from the feelings of humiliation. Try some EMDR therapy to release this so that it doesn't hold you back in life!
I know you directed this question more towards men but I had a very similar incident happen to me as well. I suffered chronic urinary tract infections and sometimes would wet myself and then because of my parents inability to properly react to the situation I became ashamed to go to the bathroom and would hold it for long periods of time. Sometimes I would urinate or defecate in my clothes and as a punishment I had to wear diapers. It is humiliating and degrading to be so different at an age where children point out the obvious and make fun of the odd one out. My parents still think they did the right thing and I still am pissed off over it. Nothing is going to change the fact they did it, I still have issues and neither of us are going to change our minds. The best advice I could give you is to realize that even though it happened for whatever reason, your parents are human and they can make mistakes too. Sometimes small and sometimes so huge you can't even believe it. You can spend your time agonizing over it or take a proactive stance in making you happy. I would seek the advice of a therapist that could set you on the road to coming to terms with jealousy and anger issues. I am glad that you are in touch with your feelings enough to be so open in discussing your ordeal. Having a 96 IQ score is just that...a score. Numbers are just clever tags for things so we can file them neatly away in orderly fashion. You get your point across well and can adequately express yourself so forget the IQ none sense. Take care of yourself and make steps to being a better person than your dad. I wish you well and hope you get some closure to this soon. Good Luck!
Obviously this is causing you problems. Get yourself an appointment with a mental health therapist. You can start by talking to a school counselor if you are still in school. If not, you can call your county health department and ask about mental health services. Whoever you go to should not make you uncomfortable. If you don't feel you can trust them by your fourth session get a new counselor. But keep trying till you find one you can really open up to. It may take time but you opened up to the whole world by asking this so you obviously are willing to work thru this. You'll be surprised at how much it relieves you to talk about it in a non-judgemental environment like a therapist's office.
thy r not suppoose to go way u r suuppose to remeber thm
It's a role/age play fetish thing, explore with someone you love.
go to a shrink and make your parents pay for it.
I am still friends with lots of kids from my elementry school. We laugh about stuff from back then, sometimes its about pretty serious stuff.but you just laugh because you had no control.now you do..so it's really OK, because whatever happened, you lived through it.
Don't know how you stop thinking about it. That will be the tricky part.
I have read ur story over and over and am pretty sure that you do not have a problem and u are only creating 1 4 ur self.
i think u are poolin up 2 much..
ease it.. if i were u , i would never care a dam...u r quite normal now, then wats da problem.
as for ur IQ, IQ figures are the most misleading indices about onself... i mean it statistically .. IQ's are based on formulaes which are seriously flawed because most of them assume IQ to be constant with age..which common logic tells us is not possible
EQ is more important..thats Emotional Quotiotent...
(take the case of my country - India... most of our political leaders and statesmen never cleared higher secoandry...they flunk over and over again...when education did not work out...they took politics.. they have great EQs)
Leave ur past behind...look towards a brighter future.. and in case memmories haunt u... take a ride..go for a walk, workout..
Doent ever see a counsellor...cause u dont need one...if you do, it will always tormentize u that u had to see one cause U werent normal. rather talk 2 someone else.. a friend or rather someone much elder %26gt;%26gt;%26gt;grandparents ! !
i was known to be a dumb sort of guy till i was 15 cause i was simply shy and would not talk to anyone... no one expected me to become a school prefect and da president of my schools debating society. i suffered in silience for quite a couple of months during school.. till i understood the power of change.
Try to walk and move around with an attitude... if anyone says its wrong, shoot back " who said its mandatory to be right "
This boosts confidence..
U for sure have some hidden talent.. explore urself , identify and build upon them.if life cant get better, it could certainly get worse... dont let it.... make da most of it...
Dont forget . people around you are not any better or superior.. they are again people after all...bundles of 'weaknesses...'.
i could go on writing. i will stop now...i dont mind seein a wasted person.. i do mind seeing a person who is wasting himself for no reason. DONT BE SUCH A PERSON...
I think this is not unusual due to your cirmcumstance and that your reaction confirms that you are NORMAL for having these reactions. You DO however need to get some consseling to learn how to deal with the past. We cannot control our past, only our present and how we leave the past behind. You are not able yet to do this so someone, a good therapist can help you. SOmetimes it takes a few to find the right one. Beleive in yourself. Get the help you deserve.
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