i cant stand it anymore i HATEEEE being fat no one understands i cant go through this summer being like thiss id rather die. i hate my body and how i cant control myself. ill diet for a weeek and lose 8llbs then ill binge and gain it all back. i need to get down to 120 but the end of junee...ps im 16 5'9140lbs grossest thing ever but i dont know what to do i exercise ALOT and try to stick to dietss but can i lose 20 lbs this month?? because people are probably embarrased to be seen with mee bc i sure would be gahh help pleease advice anytthing
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You can't be serious, right? 140 pounds and very tall, you are in no way shape or form fat. It's in your head. If people are embarrassed to be seen with you, they are not good people, and it could be because of your serious self-esteem problem. I have been overweight all my life (real overweight, not imagined-180 pounds and 5'5") and have always had the best friends, even ran with the popular crowd and played lots of sports. I was very self confident and it showed and people liked me. You don't need to be rail-thin for people to like you. You just need to be LIKEABLE! You say no one understands. Yeah, right. There are millions of seriously overweight people who understand where another overweight person is coming from, but since you are not overweight, no they don't understand. Us "fat" people can't understand why you "skinny" people think you're fat. If you do lose some weight, do it the right way. Not 20 pounds in one month, it will never last and you'll end up with an eating disorder. Exercise, pay attention to how many calories you're eating (don't go under 1300 calories in a day or you'll go into starvation mode and not lose weight properly), and you'll look better even if you don't lose weight.
The problem with almost all diets is that they are hard to stick to, even if they do work. You need to find a diet that YOU can stick to, and you won't keep any weight off if you don't excercise. Try eating the same foods but smaller portions. Don't skip meals - this will slow down your metabolism and actually make you gain weight, but you don't want to over-do it and binge, because after not having eaten much for a while your body will think it is starving so when you do eat it stores it as fat. I think you should see a nutritional consult. Get help from other people - it will be easier and more motivating for you if you have help.
first thing is relax you're not particularly overweight. Secondly it's not healthy to lose more than a couple pounds in a week so stop binge dieting. Your body has built in defenses against binge dieting which is why when you binge diet you will always gain the weight back EVERY time. That being said I suggest consulting a dietition and if you have self-image problems a therapist.
fat ? in this world there are fat people and also thin people... if you want to go on diet the best way is to remind yourself the pretty clothes which doesn't suit you due to your size... before eating unhealthy food, think of the dire consequences... sweet stuffs is the worse. eg. sweet stuffs disbetics, salty high blood pressure, high cholestrol, KIDNEY FAILURE ! it is not easy to slim down... dun worry... the strongest person is not the person who never failed but the person who stand up again when failure happens... i am a fat girl and my peers also sneer at me... i tell myself the above questions and i will avoid unhealthy food... dun hesitate to throw away a half-eaten food or drink... which is unhealthy food eg. french fries... wasting food is definitely better then wasting your health... cheer up... =)
K.k.. As fellow fat person, the first thing to do is LIGHTEN UP on yourself. Secondly, don't diet.
Diets just cause binge eating which causes you to gain all the weight you lost.
Change how you eat. Loose the chips and the soda, drink water, and eat your veggies. Have the munchies?? Try eating carrot sticks or cucumber and tomatoes with Italian dressing.
Exercise.. don't kill yourself jogging 12 miles, up hill, in the rain. Take walks at a faster pace, use the stairs, park way out in the parking lot so you have to walk to the doors.
Just taking a few simple changes in your life will make a huge difference.
NOW. you need to be fine with who you are as well. Until you think better of yourself, no one else will either. Make a list of everything that makes you special and remind yourself of those everyday. Even if it means reminding yourself how pretty your smile is. If people don't like you for who you are, they are not worth having as friends in the first place!!
Your height and weight sound like they are just right to be healthy. Instead of focusing on the weight number, just focus on being healthy, i.e. eating fruits and veg, legumes, fibre, lean protein and do cardio workouts (long, fast walks).
HAVE YOU EVER SEEN MARILYN MONROE? She was far shorter than you, and often weighed up to 140. She was gorgeous, she remains one of the quintessentially beautiful women.
IF YOU ARE 5 FEET 9 INCHES TALL AND 140 LBS, YOU ARE FAR FROM GROSS. ANYONE EMBARRASSED TO BE SEEN WITH YOU HAS A WORSE EATING DISORDER THAN YOU DO.
I hope you will become more realistic and stop hanging with people who are so mentally ill that they cause you to think you are gross.
Your body won't hold a lower weight, because a lower weight is not healthy. You are going to make yourself very sick physically and you are already getting sick mentally because of the very strange, bizarre, and distorted image you have of yourself.
At any rate, cut out all sugar, all white flour. Continue to exercise about 1/2 hour a day. Get better friends. Develop your mind so you aren't so obsessed with your body. Volunteer with disabled people so you get a truer sense of the absolute beauty of your body.
Good luck - been there, done that.
Instead of weight loss what you need is self image acceptance...There are a lot of people myself included who would kill a man to be 140 pounds...especially at your height...I don't know what kind of people you suround yourself with but I think maybe instead of trying to loose pounds you'll never loose, you need to see a doctor about gaining self-esteam...
stop eating meat for a few months and do a colon cleanse, you can get the herbs at the health food store. Most american adults carry around about 15-20 pounds of undigested food and compacted fecal matter in their digestive tract.
Oh wow to be 140 lbs is actually my goal!! It sounds to me you're ok. You're a tall girl and your bmi " Body Mass Index is 20.7, which is normal for someone with your height and weight. As far as your friends being embarrassed something has to be be wrong with them. Just because they might be skinny they might just have some insecurities issues themselves! Also by binge dieting will only make your body want to binge eat when you do eat because it wasn't getting them good nutrients before!!
I am very sorry that you feel that way about yourself. I am 5' 6" and weight 150. You are much taller than me and seem to be obsessed with your weight. (Don't get me wrong, I want to loose about 8 pounds myself)
I blame today's society and our morals as a whole because all you see on T.V. are anorexic "girls", not women. Before you get offended, I say girls because most of these "wanna be women" do not even get their period every month like God intended because their diet does not sustain their body's daily needs.
Like I said previously, I weight 150 and am 5' 6" tall. I really do not see myself being overweight at all, especially when all I hear are compliments and get stares and smiles from men.
Let me let you in on a little secret: Men DO like women with meat on them. I am not saying that you have to be a big size, but if you can see your bones thru your skin; then I believe there is a problem (like your collar bones, rib cage).
Try this, take a picture of yourself (full body) and of of some of your friends wearing the same style and color of clothes. Develope the pictures with the option of having duplicates and have your Mom or someone else cut off all the heads of each individual picture. Then all of you can try to guess who's body it is and then finally having the original picture(s) brought out to see who it actually it is. This will help you grasp a more real picture of yourself. I BET, will all my heart that your "body image" will change because you will be able to see the way your body really looks instead of a fantasy view.
Hope I have helped you, and do not let society dictate who you really are.
Oh good lord. You are not fat for your height .. You are being way too hard on yourself. There are many more important things in life to worry about. The only person who cares about this is you, and you really need to like yourself for who you are, not for how much you weigh. Your making yourself crazy over this and it is not worth it. Find a hobby or something, take your mind off of yourself and see the big picture.
Nikki, don't worry you're only 16 and for 5'9" and 140 you're beautifully built. Don't worry about others and what they think of you. I am a grown man, and I was born real skinny but I had real affection for women. It didn't not matter to me if she was fat, skinny, tall or short. What matter to me was that the person had a good personality and like to laugh. My friends use to tell me, Man, tony why do you date woman like that? you're a handsome guy and could do better and you know what I said. You live your life and I live mine, and that's the way it should be. Ok, I didn't make many friends but I did it my way. So DON"T WORRY you'll be fine. And good luck.
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